Dommeline

Somebody, a long time ago, taught you to want less of a woman. Smaller. Quieter. Easier to fit around your life. And here you are reading this, because some part of you never agreed. Plus-size body worship with me is simple. You stop apologising for what you want, and you start describing it properly, out loud, while I listen. dommeline.co.uk/profil/raven… @dommelinecouk

The curious are rarely short of desire. They are short of vocabulary. They know exactly what they feel. They simply have no name for it, and anything without a name starts to feel like a secret. I have degrees in law, psychology and sociology, which mostly means I find people fascinating and I am very hard to shock. What I notice, again and again, is how quickly a feeling stops being frightening once it has a proper word attached. Half of what I do on a kink-positive call is hand those words back. What the thing is called. Why so many people want it. What it tends to be about underneath. Which parts are fantasy and which parts can be explored safely, with the right person, at the right pace. The other half is listening to the relief in someone's voice when they realise they are not the only one. Experienced or brand new, it is the same courtesy: no laughing, no lecture, no hurry. Kink-positive advice, by voice, from a Welshwoman who has heard everything twice. dommeline.co.uk/profil/raven… @dommelinecouk

The men who ask me to humiliate them are rarely the ones you would guess. They are not weak. Usually they are the opposite: the one who runs the meeting, fixes the problem, answers every message before anyone else has read it. They have spent years being impressive, and nobody has ever given them permission to stop. That is what humiliation is, done properly. Not cruelty. A short, agreed holiday from having to be admired. For twenty minutes on a call, you do not have to be the capable one. You only have to be honest about how much you wanted to be put in your place, and I will be precise about where that place is. It is negotiated. It stays inside what we agreed. And it is said in a soft Welsh voice that makes it land harder than shouting ever could. Humiliation and degradation, by voice. dommeline.co.uk/profil/raven… @dommelinecouk