LONG POST You gotta be okay being the “bad guy” in other people’s stories. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: You’ll make it further in life when you stop worrying about who likes you. With that being said, let’s talk about a few things. 1️⃣ VERIFY THOSE TEST RESULTS 🧪 Triple check EVERYTHING. Check the QR code, have them log into their testing portal, make sure the names match, and verify the dates and results. Clearly, some people are playing dirty out here, faking tests just to get some nuts off. 🤦🏾‍♂️ Just because other creators accept a 14 day testing window doesn’t mean YOU have to. You can require 7 days, 3 days, or whatever makes you comfortable. YOUR BODY. YOUR CHOICE. YOUR RULES. 2️⃣ ASK THE UNCOMFORTABLE QUESTIONS 🗣️ Who are you fucking? How many bodies have you had since that test? Are you fucking outside the industry? What risks am I potentially exposing myself to? If someone has a problem with you asking questions about YOUR health and safety, FUCKKK ’EM! 🗣️🗣️ Your peace of mind is more important than somebody else’s feelings. 3️⃣ YOUR BOUNDARIES ARE NOT UP FOR NEGOTIATION 🚫 You don’t do anal? Cool. That’s your boundary. The moment someone keeps asking after you’ve already said no? TELL EM TO EAT A DICK! 🗣️🗣️ No means NO. It doesn’t mean convince me, pressure me, or keep bringing it up until I change my mind. Don’t be afraid to cancel a shoot, even if it’s literally seconds before the camera turns on. If your gut tells you something is off, TRUST IT. Nobody is entitled to your body or your participation. 4️⃣ DO YOUR HOMEWORK ON PEOPLE 🔎 Research who you’re working with. I’m literally watching a creator continue getting collabs after being called out last summer over SA allegations. Dude is still lurking in the shadows. Being naive happens, but I’d rather look dumb asking questions and learning something than ignore red flags and put myself in a bad situation. Protect yourself. Ask around. Pay attention. 5️⃣ STOP WORRYING ABOUT BEING LIKED 💯 Some people don’t like me because I don’t try to fit in, follow the crowd, or drink the Kool Aid. And I’m perfectly fine with that. The people who genuinely know me know how honest, genuine, and professional I am when conducting business. But they also know I stand firmly on my principles. If you pressure me to respond to you, understand something: I’m NOT obligated to respond on YOUR timeline. I’ll respond when I’m ready, if you are not my girlfriend, or mother I don’t owe you shit unless we are in a current business venture. or I simply won’t respond at all. And if you try to pressure me into creating content I’m not comfortable with, I’ll shut that shit down or stop communicating entirely. Perfect example: Asking my girlfriend about a couples swap literally AFTER I already told you that’s not something I do. Like, what part of NO was confusing? 🤨 6️⃣ PROTECT YOUR PEACE AND YOUR PROFESSIONALISM 👏🏾 At the end of the day, this adult industry is filled with some immature shitheads who will test your boundaries, disrespect your decisions, and put their own desires ahead of your well being. You have to protect yourself because not everybody has your best interests at heart. But here’s the thing. Once you establish your boundaries, stand on your principles, and surround yourself with the right people, this industry can genuinely be AMAZING. You can build great relationships, create incredible content, and enjoy what you do without compromising who you are. Being professional doesn’t mean being a pushover. Being kind doesn’t mean being available. And having boundaries doesn’t make you difficult. Sometimes being the “bad guy” is simply the price you pay for respecting yourself. And I’m perfectly okay with that. 🗣️💯 RANT OVER. 🎤⬇️

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