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Author. Shrink. Sex therapist. Black belt in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. Defender of misfit toys.

Albuquerque, NM
Joined September 2013
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Unpopular opinion: treating other people as objects is a symptom of narcissism. The fact that some narcissists do it sexually is, again, still a symptom of narcissism.
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Ummm. What now? Might want to rethink the messaging here. Just sayin.
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I’m not great at math, but working 18 hours a day but only producing 2 shows a week? These maths don’t adds up for me.
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Has the UK Government banned face sitting and fellatio in porn? I'm quoted in @WIRED about the implications of the possession and suffocation offences commencing across the UK tomorrow. “I would encourage both content creators and consumers to underscore the risks of this law,” says Myles Jackman, an obscenity lawyer in the UK.“Because to me, it genuinely seems like one of the greatest acts of suppression of free speech in global history.” Jackman, the lawyer, says that he has no issue with the provision banning strangulation, as its risks are proven and there are existing laws banning strangulation in the UK. He cautions, however, that the law is written broadly enough that relatively innocuous content could also potentially be penalized. “It would be up to a court to decide this on a case-by-case basis, but given that it would appear that face-sitting by a vagina owner is now arguably suffocation, the insertion of a penis could equally be considered suffocation because it blocks the airways,” he says. In other words, “the UK could have just banned blow jobs” in online pornography. But even though the UK is, for the time being, an outlier, Jackman warns it may not be for long. He says he has heard of lawmakers in Italy, the Netherlands, and Spain discussing similar legislation, as well as members of the evangelical lobby in the United States. “In terms of free speech,” he says, “the lights are going out across the globe.”’
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Breaking News: Deb Haaland, the former congresswoman and interior secretary, will be the nation’s first female Native American governor after winning in New Mexico, according to The Associated Press. nyti.ms/4BFGoHo
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Thank you, New Mexico. I am deeply grateful for the trust you have placed in me to continue serving in the U.S. Senate. I will continue listening, showing up, and working with anyone ready to make life better for New Mexicans. Stay strong, New Mexico!
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Democrat Deb Haaland has won the New Mexico Governor's race. She will make history as the nation's first Native American governor.
Readers added context they thought people might want to know
Haaland, a member of the Laguna Pueblo, will be the first female Native American governor of any U.S. state, not the first overall. Johnston Murray was the first Native American to be elected governor in the U.S. nbc26.com/politics/ameri… en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Johnston_…
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Large (N=67k) research by Aavik et al finds average men’s sexual desire is substantially higher ;and more stable) than women’s throughout most of the adult life span—peak average ♀ sex drive (age 20-30) is lower than ♂ (<60) average levels: buff.ly/EEgkmNL
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I occasionally watched porn back in the '80s when I was quite young, but I stopped watching it before I turned 30 and don't care for it. But like Iona, I defend the right of OTHERS to watch porn if they want to.
There are a few deeply tender people who have never watched pornography out there who are nevertheless fierce defenders of free speech. Count me among them: a prude in favour of sexual freedom. (Because not everything is about me; some things are matters of principle.)
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“It’s frightful that people who are so ignorant should have so much influence.” — George Orwell
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Lucious Malfoy actor Jason Isaacs refused to join in the celebrity pile-on of JK Rowling: "She has her view, and I have mine," Isaacs said. "They differ on many levels. But one thing people should also know about her, and I'm not saying it as a counter-argument, is that through her charity Lumos she has given a huge part of her fortune to making the world better for hundreds of thousands of vulnerable children. And that is unquestionably a good thing. Many of us Harry Potter actors have worked with it and seen the work she does up close." Is it brave to stand up for someone and say something nice about them when there's social pressure to attack them?
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[Violence against women is the] "single greatest human rights violation of our generation." "I do what I do in my mother's name, because I couldn't help her then. Now I can." -Sir Patrick Stewart
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Planning to rewatch Lifeforce this weekend in tribute to Patrick Stewart’s finest work.
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I will note that claims of recovered and repressed memories are back, despite the horrific damages they did. We need books like this to help us remember!!
Just like at Salem, many of the accused in the Satanic Panic chose to tell the truth at great personal cost, refusing sweetheart deals with no prison time if they would just lie carolinajournal.com/opinion/…
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I, for one, didn’t expect dystopia to be run by morons. My bad.
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Context: male celebrities who engage in objectification and exploitation of others commonly blame their behaviors on “sex addiction.” Too much sex made them treat others as sexual objects-though there’s another, simpler underlying explanation-narcissism…
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We are approaching the winter solstice, so I should probably share my suicide season post for gun owners
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Oh that’s cool. And much more realistic than fake flying Teslas.
Reliable Robotics demonstrated autonomous Cessna flights at Albuquerque International Sunport under an FAA program. abqjournal.com/business/reli…
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