Attachment-Focused Psychotherapist
Joined March 2015
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"Gaslighting is crazy-making. It diminishes what we know to be true. It makes us doubt reality and doubt ourselves." alanrobarge.com
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Gaslighting occurs when someone says to you, "that's not how you feel." alanrobarge.com
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"Inner Child and Parts Work is about creating a real-time, present-moment relational exchange with younger feeling states and memories that were painful and overwhelming." alanrobarge.com
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"Inner child healing work gives voice to the unsaid." alanrobarge.com
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"We are anxious because our partner is not emotionally available. Yet, our anxiety limits our emotional availability. Now, we are acting just like our partner. We are unavailable together." alanrobarge.com
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"For those of us with Attachment Trauma, the more we obsess about another person and feel anxious about the relationship, the more consumed we become with our own anxiety. Anxiety feeds on itself. It grows." alanrobarge.com
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"You cannot create shared meaning in your relationship if both partners aren't willing to share equally." alanrobarge.com
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"Fantasy relating means imagining you are going to get back together even though the relationship is over." alanrobarge.com
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"Being addicted to a person is about trauma, not addiction." alanrobarge.com
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"Those of us with a history of attachment trauma need to learn to not shut down or close ourselves off from intimacy. " alanrobarge.com
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"Loving is risky! It's a risk to open our heart. It's a risk to open to vulnerability. Learning new skills is the same way. We need to be open to learning if we want our relationships to grow." alanrobarge.com
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"Relationships require open-heartedness. You cannot let in new info or hear your partner if you're closed off. Loving guarded just won't work. Eventually, you'll hit a dead-end when relating." alanrobarge.com
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"Striving for your best self negates who you are today." alanrobarge.com
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"One challenge of living with unhealed attachment injuries is that we have a tendency to orient and focus too much on others - specifically a partner or ex-partner." alanrobarge.com
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"Routines can be comforting and sometimes they can feel like a prison. One of the best things can be when partners or friends or family members share in a routine that brings them both joy, fun and happiness" alanrobarge.com
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"We don't have to try so hard to be a somebody because we already are someone - we are ourselves. You are yourself. I am myself. There's nothing to prove." alanrobarge.com
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#selfhealer
"When we are in a trance-like state of trauma-mind, we are often unable to access inner resources. We are disconnected from our higher functioning." alanrobarge.com
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#selflove
#selfhealer