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A painful thing men must realise is that if her respect for you revolves around how much you earn rather than the type of man that you are, then that woman does not really love you, for a woman who ties her estimation of you to your earning capacity cares only for her own survival, rather than you. To want to provide so you can take good care of those you love is an act of generosity from a pure heart, whilst seeking to make good money simply so you can be respected and thereby eligible for basic respect, dignity and human decency is another. To earn merely so you can be seen as human by being a good enough tool to flaunt and serve is not only its own irony, but an all the more hollow victory, for the very flawed premise of the game you are playing means even when you win you lose, for she is no prize, but a false reward. A love predicated on economic utility is no love at all, for characterised by pragmatism it is mercenary and self-interested, looking solely at what can be taken rather than given, making it fickle, shallow, unforgiving and intolerant - a dynamic more akin to that of employer and employee, rather than of true lovers.

Rational optimism is to know there are potential risks and threats, and to not need to pretend they don't exist in order to stay hopeful and try your best regardless. It is to be undefeatable without being delusional, and to never give in to fear, despair or unfavourable odds out of sheer awe and appreciation for the beauty of this existence you believe is worth fighting for. And so to realise everything is against you and that the chance of failure is high is not enough to deter you, for probability cannot dissuade you, nor logic command you. You are so immensely stubborn that not even misery itself can overwhelm you nor subvert your will, for your will is unbending, unbreakable, unconquerable - you are immortal!

A couple who works through their fears together, stays together. Through diligence, courage and tenderness, there is little you cannot achieve.

Love is not making someone convenient fit neatly into your pre-existing life, but becoming better for someone you truly admire through nothing but your love for them. It is not convenient. It is meant to be transformative. It should fundamentally alter the essence of your being.

A woman who categorically rejects male authority should be avoided by men, because she is a resentful rather than discerning woman. A foolish woman either unquestioningly listens to men, which whilst possible is much rarer in the present time, or blindly rebels against them in her thinly veiled contempt for them as part of her unresolved animosity towards the masculine. A wiser woman on the other hand discerns: she distinguishes between men who are worth listening to, and men who are not, naturally finding far fewer in the former category than in the latter, because rather than basing her value judgement on shallow things like earnings, family name and material accomplishments, she bases it upon the perceived depth and quality of his mind in conjunction with a repeated demonstration of noble character.

Every unpleasant soul I endure, every sacrifice I make, every time I bite my tongue, every temptation I reject, every mercy I extend and fear I confront - everything that I do, I do for you, for there is nothing I cannot do when I think of you.

The dilemma of woman is that she must risk herself to lead the best possible life for herself, and yet cannot afford to take too many risks. A girl’s path is narrow - if she take no risks, that is in itself a risk, because she misses her window and opportune timing until the culmination of her inaction leads to a most reactive and scrambling desperation upon the realisation she wasted too much time and took too long - a terrible position to be working from. The “do nothing and wait” approach to life encourages passivity and cowardice and thus a sense of learned helplessness. It teaches a girl to become a spectator of her own life, rather than a conqueror and thereby active participant in her own destiny. Such a woman realises she must preserve herself, and yet has done so so rigidly that she has no forward motion, meaningful spiritual growth nor progression towards her heart and soul’s truest desires, and thus blames God and the world for her “bad luck”, because the things she never stuck her neck on the line for - the things she never fought for - did not simply drop into her lap. Take too many risks, be too reckless, and you ruin yourself. Take no risks, be too rigid, and you ruin yourself. Almost all paths for woman lead to destruction - but there is a third way, my dear, and that is the love of wisdom. To gain a love for all that is true and correct and good from a young age, generally around when you experience that crisis of self in your teens, to gain a love of conquest, and then apply your discernment to your desire to take informed, intelligent risks. So rather than be a girl who does nothing, you move decisively. You are neither passive nor reckless, but you are patient. She checks herself and so she asks herself “am I doing the right thing for the right reasons here?”“is this truly aligned with my highest self?” She does not waste herself on inadequate men, nor refuse to give herself to the adequate - but crucially, she surrenders on her own terms. If paradise requires surrender and it is a girl’s destiny (and secret desire) to do so, then she may as well dictate the terms of her surrender so that she may do so beautifully in the highest and most meaningful way. This is what it is to be a girl who gets it right. Nobody can promise you that your dreams will come true and that everything will work out well for you, because some things are down to God and luck - however - you must do your bit to ensure God and luck can assist you as much as they possibly can by playing your part, meaning you must be willing to discern as much as you are willing to fight - you must risk - you must apply yourself fully. You must not be an observer of your own life, wasting time by doing nothing, pretending your idle waiting is a something, and yet you must also not ruin yourself by being reckless. Be cautious, but be mindful, observe, think, and research thoroughly, but not endlessly - and when you know what you know and cannot know it any better - then just do it - fucking do it - love violently, dare to blossom and risk yourself, sweet creature.

It is generally wise for women, especially young women, to limit the access that men have to them. If you are an even moderately attractive or intelligent young women, men are going to repeatedly proposition you in some pretty strange and undesirable ways until your threat detection pattern recognition builds up a natural distrust and contempt for men. It also just causes background stress and anxiety to have to be on your guard around men all the time. Much potential nonsense, upset and danger can be averted by minimising your engagement with men as much as possible. Of course, if you are ambitious and want to accomplish anything worth accomplishing as a woman, then men are pretty unavoidable, as they are the vast majority at the highest levels of competence hierarchies, and thus if you are going to properly apply yourself in a way that makes avoiding them unfeasible, you should generally carry yourself in a way that makes you seem uninteresting and otherwise unapproachable. Aim to be efficient and bland, rather than interesting and likeable. Don't be pleasant, sweet or complimenting, because they will your warmth as a sign of receptivity to their lust driven overtures, and start to fantasise you are attracted to them. Do not accentuate your sexuality by dressing to entice them for whatever meagre dopamine hits that may bring you. Aim to go largely unnoticed by all except who you need to be noticed by - do not be conspicuous. If you are too interesting, likeable and play even small attention games, you will end up in many awkward and undesirable situations. Some of these situations be genuinely dangerous, whilst others may just lose you opportunities in your unwillingness to reciprocate warmth or forfeit your dignity. The men with ill designs on you will be many, whilst the ones you can genuinely appreciate, feel safe around and trust will be few. Truth be told, women do not really have any business working alongside men, and so if you are going to regardless, these are the sorts of protective measures you should be taking.

A husband expands the world for his wife by increasing her capacity to take risks - things she couldn't really do before, she now can - his presence opens up the world for her. Things she could not explore before without being at imminent risk of immediate physical danger or irreparably ruining herself now become options - she can visit certain places, experiment with certain things. A woman's life is inherently risk averse and prudential as a matter of self-preservation to be the best possible woman for her husband. But once she has secured that husband, a second life begins where her craziest passions, desires, interests and hobbies can be explored by his side - she can more deeply engage her darkness and love of thrillseeking, knowing he is there to catch her and share it all with. Done right, union with a man is actually expansive rather than oppressive, for whilst a man who truly loves his woman is as possessive as a woman who truly loves her man, each wants to see the other grow and reach the height of their potential.