Where are The Muffinz?

How much more mollycoddling do we BLACK MEN really need when, for centuries, systems, institutions, culture, politics and religion have overwhelmingly favoured and protected men? We Black men, despite the real and painful history of colonisation and its cousin racial oppression we still benefited from patriarchy and male privilege in ways women simply have not. Patriarchy did a number on all of us. It forced women into subjugation and they forced their way out of it. It taught us men entitlement, emotional avoidance, dominance, bullying and never bothered to teach us accountability and emotional growth. Instead of unlearning and unchaining ourselves from its horrible regressive teachings as men we cling to them blaming the world for leaving the boy child and men-children behind while we are refusing to do the mental and emotional work and the much needed catching up to the world. Dear boys, men and men-children, step out of the patriarchal box and its delusions. Embrace being human. Learn emotional literacy beyond anger, violence and silence. Learn how to be decent, responsible, resilient, accountable, self-aware adults who embrace failure and fallibility with grace and strive to do right by yourselves and the world around you. Black men don’t need more grace. We need to grow up. PS. Yes, fragile as they maybe on the outside women, have proven to be far much more resilient and sophisticated than us men on all counts. Top pedigree beings those ones. The sooner you embrace this too; the better.