Lnu (Mi'kmaq) Land and Water Defender. Grassroots Aunties and Grandmothers. Informed opinions. Silence is too high a price to pay, for your approval. No lists
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Barbara Low retweeted
The idea that opposing 'breath play' is prudish only works if you conceive of it as a kind of harmless indulgence. Something a bit naughty but nice.
A better analogy - based on Elizabeth's clear explanation below - is that it's like a craze whereby people try a spot of Russian Roulette during sex.
We'd probably try to put a stop to that, even if people had consented to it. Wouldn't we?
I do strangulation exams as part of my job. I have taken extensive training in strangulation and am qualified to testify as an expert in strangulation cases. The general public has no idea how bad this epidemic has become, how many women and girls this is happening to, or how dangerous this is.
I share facts about it sometimes like men who strangle women are twice as likely to be involved in a mass shooting or to kill a cop. Women who are strangled by their partners are 750% more likely to be killed by that partner.
I tell people that death by strangulation can occur in just minutes, under a minute if you hit the right nerve bundles that lead to certain arrhythmias. I also tell them that a woman can die from a strangulation event up to one year after the event and that a pregnant woman who has been strangled is at high risk of pregnancy loss for weeks after the strangulation event. Strangulation can lead to brain damage, physical disability, stroke, pregnancy loss, and death.
I tell people that there is no safe way to strangle and that nobody has the ability to consent to being murdered, and consent is not an excuse for murder, if someone were to consent to this it is incumbent on the would be murderer to use self discipline and restraint, because a person’s “consent” to being murdered is not going to be recognized by any court as a legitimate excuse. Nobody can consent to being killed.
When I tell people these things, a very few are appreciative, mostly women, some are interested, men and women, and some attack me for being stupid and not knowing what I am talking about, apparently days of professional training and hundreds of exams performed mean nothing to the “experts” of X. Those that attack are mostly men. Some argue with me about dumb things, like my insistence to call strangulation what it is. Strangulation is not choking, choking is not strangulation, these are two different types of ways to block an airway but they are not the same. That is what people argue with me about the most. They insist on using incorrect language and then provide me with a weak google link picture of a choke hold to try to prove it’s the same.
So then it becomes me explaining that a choke hold is called a chokehold but it is not choking it is strangulation and that blows their minds and I am met with silence or swears.
This is an incredibly important issue that needs to be discussed but it is very contentious and the defenders of strangulation can turn into rabid dogs very quickly.
Anyway, I just wanted to tell you that I really appreciate the effort you are taking here, that you are raising awareness and that you are using accurate language and data. It’s really important that we change the narrative around this subject.
I would like to share this resource with you, I’m not sure if you are aware of them or not, but this was the group that did my training on strangulation. They go all over the US teaching medical professionals and law enforcement about strangulation and they have a ton of information and resources on their website. You might find them useful.
Thank you for talking about this.
strangulationtraininginstitu…
Barbara Low retweeted
Notice how the BDSM defense squad use vanilla as an insult implying a woman is boring & a prude?
This is how our patriarchal society has conditions so many women to feel pressured into extreme sex acts pushed & normalized by porn culture.
To avoid the "shame" of prudery.
Barbara Low retweeted
Talks failed. War is ensured.
The US will be shrunk down to its size.
One polar world and hegemony is over.
Barbara Low retweeted
The Kink & BDSM scene loves to use cutesy wordplay to rename forms of abuse & trauma responses
Breathplay=strangulation
Edgeplay=knives
Subspace=dissociation
Subdrop=PTSD reaction
Aftercare=love bombing
CNC=rape roleplay
Ageplay= pedophilia RP
Total Power Exchange=slavery
Barbara Low retweeted
It's nuts. Boys are being brought up to believe sex should be misogynistic, degrading and even brutal. Spitting, slapping, strangling, degrading language.... and girls are being brought up to think that's what they're expected to put up with and say they like.
A very good book about the impact of porn: amazon.co.uk/Pornocracy-Jo-B…
Barbara Low retweeted
There is a deep, dark irony that lies a the heart of the Conversion Practices Bill, that will play out.
If passed, the law will end up being the largest ever driver of conversion practices for gay and lesbian young people. It will have far more negative impact that Section 28.
Barbara Low retweeted
"Strangulation can lead to brain damage, physical disability, stroke, pregnancy loss, and death... A woman can die from a strangulation event up to one year after the event."
Ladies, stop putting yourself in harm's way just to appease men.
I do strangulation exams as part of my job. I have taken extensive training in strangulation and am qualified to testify as an expert in strangulation cases. The general public has no idea how bad this epidemic has become, how many women and girls this is happening to, or how dangerous this is.
I share facts about it sometimes like men who strangle women are twice as likely to be involved in a mass shooting or to kill a cop. Women who are strangled by their partners are 750% more likely to be killed by that partner.
I tell people that death by strangulation can occur in just minutes, under a minute if you hit the right nerve bundles that lead to certain arrhythmias. I also tell them that a woman can die from a strangulation event up to one year after the event and that a pregnant woman who has been strangled is at high risk of pregnancy loss for weeks after the strangulation event. Strangulation can lead to brain damage, physical disability, stroke, pregnancy loss, and death.
I tell people that there is no safe way to strangle and that nobody has the ability to consent to being murdered, and consent is not an excuse for murder, if someone were to consent to this it is incumbent on the would be murderer to use self discipline and restraint, because a person’s “consent” to being murdered is not going to be recognized by any court as a legitimate excuse. Nobody can consent to being killed.
When I tell people these things, a very few are appreciative, mostly women, some are interested, men and women, and some attack me for being stupid and not knowing what I am talking about, apparently days of professional training and hundreds of exams performed mean nothing to the “experts” of X. Those that attack are mostly men. Some argue with me about dumb things, like my insistence to call strangulation what it is. Strangulation is not choking, choking is not strangulation, these are two different types of ways to block an airway but they are not the same. That is what people argue with me about the most. They insist on using incorrect language and then provide me with a weak google link picture of a choke hold to try to prove it’s the same.
So then it becomes me explaining that a choke hold is called a chokehold but it is not choking it is strangulation and that blows their minds and I am met with silence or swears.
This is an incredibly important issue that needs to be discussed but it is very contentious and the defenders of strangulation can turn into rabid dogs very quickly.
Anyway, I just wanted to tell you that I really appreciate the effort you are taking here, that you are raising awareness and that you are using accurate language and data. It’s really important that we change the narrative around this subject.
I would like to share this resource with you, I’m not sure if you are aware of them or not, but this was the group that did my training on strangulation. They go all over the US teaching medical professionals and law enforcement about strangulation and they have a ton of information and resources on their website. You might find them useful.
Thank you for talking about this.
strangulationtraininginstitu…
Barbara Low retweeted
These student protests across Europe are fucking beautiful. And spare me the sanctimony about violence. These kids could riot til the end of time and still not come close to the violence the West inflicts daily on the global majority or, for that matter, on its own most vulnerable citizens.
Barbara Low retweeted
I support the decision of the Mohawk Council of Kahnawake to withdraw from AFN and its affiliated bodies.
There is ample evidence that shows AFN is a tool of the Carney government & is helping to implement the federal Termination Agenda!
kahnawake.com/ratitsenhaienh…
Barbara Low retweeted
We are sleepwalking into World War 111, and all because the Little Hitler in Tel Aviv has Epstein video footage of the Orange Blob in Washington abusing and raping little children.
Barbara Low retweeted
Agent Orange is still killing people.
Let that be your starting point every time someone wants to have a "civilized" conversation about American foreign policy.
Not metaphorically. Not as history. Right now, today, children are being born in Vietnam with devastating disabilities because the U.S. Air Force saturated the Vietnamese countryside with dioxin-laced herbicide between 1961 and 1971.
The half-life of this poison in human tissue and in soil is not a matter of decades. It is a matter of generations.
They poisoned the land. They poisoned the water. They poisoned the genetic legacy of millions of families.
And then they left.
And then they had the audacity, the breathtaking audacity, to spend the following decades positioning themselves as the moral authority of the planet.
To sanction other countries for human rights abuses. To fund international courts. To write reports about atrocities committed by governments they didn't like. To show up at the United Nations and speak about the "rules-based international order."
The same government. The same institutional continuity. The same flag.
The country that is still poisoning Vietnamese children from a war that ended more than fifty years ago is the country that lectures the world about human rights.
And here is the thing about Vietnam that makes this hypocrisy historically radioactive:
Vietnam won anyway.
Despite everything done to it. Despite the poison in its soil and the bombs in its mountain.
There are still undetonated American bombs in the mountains of Vietnam, still killing farmers today. Still.
Despite all of it, Vietnam rebuilt. Vietnam developed. Vietnam survived.
They tried to make Vietnam an example of what happens when you resist.
Vietnam made itself an example of what happens when you survive.
Every country watching this story has to make a choice about which example matters more.
The example of: this is what we will do to you if you resist.
Or the example of: this is what is possible if you refuse to be destroyed.
Vietnam chose. Vietnam chose to fight and to suffer and to rebuild and to stand.
And today Vietnam is a country. A real one. With its own government. Its own choices. Its own future.
And the men who ordered the Agent Orange are dead, and their war is over, and their example failed, and Vietnam is still here.
That is the most important sentence in modern history.
Vietnam is still here.
Barbara Low retweeted
>2027
>wake up and go to bathroom
>Iran has hacked the smart toilet servers, cant flush
>wander to kitchen
>A North Korean cyberattack has taken my smart coffee machine offline
>”ok I’ll just boil water on the stove”
>smart sink bricked by Russian DDoS
>smart stove offline because I forgot to pay my stove subscription again
>fml
>”maybe a movie will distract me”
>try to turn on smart TV
>I’ve been banned from my smart remote bc it overheard me criticizing Israel
>mfw
Supermarket freezers in Belgium and Sweden hit by cyber-attack bbc.in/4zilPiF
