Becoming me

One goal for me today is to keep my presence and not losing myself in the businesses of the day.

It was nice chatting with co-workers and feeling liked and fitted in. After years of feeling rejected and not belonged.

My style will change, I am no longer writing as a guru or someone who knows better. Rather I am documenting my journey and presenting an opportunity for similar minds to see something that touches their hearts.

Why would I keep pushing myself to stay awake even though my eyes are closing?

I’m back to write again. I don’t know why exactly but I have a feeling that I should do. There is a lot going on and I want to share my daily journey finding who I am after I lost touch with my aliveness.

Hi everyone I am back👋🏻

“One time you had dreams. Big ones. They made you burn with excitement. Then slowly they faded. But they left a void behind. And since then, you’ve been trying to fill it… However you should remember: You can’t fill a square space with a circle piece.”

Listen carefully: If you still watch porn, be prepared for: •Weak overall health •A decrease in passion for life •Gradual changes in personality •A distorted view of relationships •Sexual dysfunction •Mental health issues on the horizon I can’t stress this enough, but I will say one thing: There is literally no way you can reach real happiness or make lasting improvements in life while giving away your soul to a fake, filthy, temporary pleasure.

The moment you feel like sharing your plans with someone, shut the fu*k up immediately. It’s almost impossible to achieve them if you did.

It’s not that you can’t find your purpose, it’s that you’re so out of touch with yourself that you can’t feel life anymore.

It’s time for people to understand: Feelings and emotions are not “unimportant” things you can just push away. In fact, you live for these experiences, and because of them. You are alive because of the dopamine system driving you to chase survival. Everything you do is to feel something, and everything you avoid is to avoid feeling something. And once you truly realize this, you can begin taking the right actions, in the right place, at the right time.

{{ I want to remind you that you’re not meant to endure pain. Even though you might be experiencing it now, I assure you that it can get better~and it will, once you set foot on the road of finding yourself.}} Zain…

{{Apparently the early experiences’ effects on us are the lifelong challenge life enforces on us.}} Zain….

You know what blows my mind? The fact that we don’t know why we’re here, how we ended up here, or what we should do. Yet everyone acts like it doesn’t matter<just following what others told them to do.

3 Things Most People Ignore When Building Self-Confidence:💪🏼 1️⃣ Confidence can’t be faked: Trust me on this<people can easily tell the difference between real and fake confidence. Looking strong on the outside while trembling on the inside is not the solution. 2️⃣Look inward first: Here’s the deal: {true confidence starts within.} So working on the fears and barriers that stop you from expressing your authentic self is the foundation~not just speaking louder or acting tougher. -You need to understand that. 3️⃣ Know your “why” Your aim should be self-love and acceptance, not just impressing others. - I find that too many people chase confidence as a cover for lack, instead of pursuing real, healthy growth. 🔹The Bottom Line is: Confidence isn’t something you’re born with or without<it’s the result of inner work and continuous growth. What you nurture inside today will inevitably reflect on the outside tomorrow.🙏🏻

{[Treat your life as a game.]} Because actually it is~ but on the level of your entire existence.🎮 You can think about it as a maze you’re inside, but the beauty of it that you don’t know.🧩 -Challenges and struggles are not accidents, they are what give the game its meaning. -You need to grasp that.🤜🏻 -If life were easy, the game would lose its value.👎🏻 -Yes it is harsh sometimes but there is no other way.❌ -The secret isn’t wishing for fewer obstacles, Rather changing the way you look at them. -Once you understand that every difficulty is necessary, you’ll realize it’s the key to moving on to the next level.⏭️ And only then you’ll start enjoying the challenges you face.

I will never stop trying… What’s the alternative?? Depression and apathy?!! I’ve already tried those< no thanks.

{You’re not tired of life. You’re tired of living it without yourself.} [Here’s 10 steps to start grounding yourself in the middle of a messy life:🫟 1️⃣ Start by choosing yourself over others. -Try this even for one day, because there is a high possibility that you have been abandoning yourself to please people around you. -Be brave enough to choose yourself, even if this disappoints others. 2️⃣ Dedicate some time daily to relax, meditate, or in a nutshell, get in touch with yourself. -It doesn’t have to be for eternity; {10 minutes is enough.} - Quit all distractions, sit with yourself in a calm environment, give your inner world some attention, and listen to your inner voice. 3️⃣ Feel your feelings and emotions. Check what’s going on inside your body- probably you haven’t paid attention to this for a long time. 4️⃣ Let this internal voice express itself and talk. Just listen to it, don’t interrupt it. Try to be an observer and a listener. Be patient with yourself. -You have something valuable inside of you, and your quest is to find it. 5️⃣ For this period of time you chose for yourself, make sure you eliminate distractions and avoid running away from yourself. 6️⃣ Starting small is better than doing nothing. Even if you don’t have enough time or if you are busy with work, family, or whatever, you don’t have to do this for five hours. -Just find a small window of 10 to 20 minutes ~maybe before sleep. {The goal here is consistency. This is the key, not perfectionism.} 7️⃣ If you think you don’t have time, I want to remind you that you are wasting dozens of 20-minute chunks on your phone each day, so I’m pretty sure you can get 20 minutes for yourself. 8️⃣ Don’t underestimate the power of this reflection session when done consistently. Just have faith, stick to it, and be patient. Don’t expect immediate results. 9️⃣ Change your information intake: If you are one of those who are struggling but don’t know what’s going on, you need to start educating yourself about yourself. Because you can’t solve a problem if you don’t know what is going on. 🔟 So focus on figuring out why you don’t feel well and why you are not happy. Trust me, it’s worth every second of it. {Understanding yourself and focusing on your internal well-being is the only key to feeling happy and actualized.} Start today…… Zain✍🏼 zain-z.medium.com/if-you-are……