I'll proceed. Many men, not bad men, not men who merely want to get laid without having the context necessary to make the sex correct, are doomers. They perceive themselves as inadequate or insufficient, and they try to talk to women and it doesn't work out. "My perceived weakness is vindicated, it really does matter that I'm short or ugly, that I'm not ripped, that I'm not a millionaire." If you approach women with an apologetic posture, "sorry to bother you," feeling internally that your presence is an intrusion demanding explanation, they will believe you. The choice you made, to see yourself as a negative, is something they'll pick up on. The amazing thing is that people (men and women) will tend to trust you and defer to your outlook. If you think the world is hostile, they'll respond with hostility. If you think that you're defective, they won't run an independent evaluation, they'll accept your judgement. If you spit in your own face and prostrate yourself and beg for the mercy of a conversation, they spit too, because surely you know yourself best.