Dr. Carter Brûlée, PhD

I know people mean well, I do, but the least helpful thing right now is being asked if I’m okay. I’m not okay. I am so deeply sad and so deeply afraid. The answer is no, I am not okay. Not even close. I can’t tell you when I might be okay. And I don’t know how anyone can help.

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Ethical educators do not use their status as an educator as a basis for being a safe and trustworthy partner. If someone tells you they teach so that means they are safe to play with that’s a red flag 🚩 🚩 🚩.

Me: I’m polysaturated Also me: He’s interesting and it’s just one date Three dates later me: We should talk about dating things Sometimes things happen when you’re not expecting them to 🤷🏽‍♂️🙃

I was anxious about my outfit while I was getting ready for a date tonight and R came into the room while I was getting ready. Me: IDK why I’m worried, he very clearly told me he thinks I’m hot. R: Plus even if it goes terribly you won’t die alone. You have 4 partners.

I think 6. But the number gets much higher if we count any kink play 🙃

I called @MaestroStefanos this morning unexpectedly without texting first. I do that so rarely that the first thing he said when he picked up the phone was “are you okay?!” 😂😂😂

As a joke @milesofriles1 got us matching silk pjs to wear at thanksgiving w/ his family. They’ve arrived & we both love them. They’re cozy af & now he’s research fancy ones that we can get monogrammed with symbols of our pet names for eachother. This may be peak adorkable queer.

When @ArmoryFox hurts me until my brain turns off it’s called bunny maintenance mode 🐰💜🦊

I suspected I would get called into the emergency department last night so I prepared some things in advance. I asked @milesofriles1 to put aside some pants when they finished drying. At 4am tired and in the hospital elevator I discovered a cute note in my pocket 💜

I don’t advertise my ko-fi page but occasionally someone finds it and sends me something. When it happens it is always such a lovely surprise and I think because I don’t advertise it or ask folks to use it it feels very rewarding when someone decides they’d like to contribute ❤️

Me: I have a bad sense of direction and am good at getting lost. @thistaminai: Don’t worry I’ll be your guide goth!