Mbuodile Obiosio

Women think it’s until they stab their husbands with knife or shoot with gun, that’s only when they kill. They don’t know that emotional and mental stress can kill. There was a compound we lived in while we were growing up. I was about 12 years old at the time. Between when I was 12 and when I turned 15, about three men died in that compound. The last man that died, only God knows if he wasn’t stressed, because his wife was always complaining. The wife was always shouting and fighting the husband 24/7. At some point, we heard that the man lost his job. Then it got to a point where the man told my dad that he couldn’t sleep in that house because the stress from his wife was too much. This continued until the man died. After the man died, my father became the only elderly man in that compound. Then, she started calling my father to help her do things. My mother no gree o. My mother did not accept it at all. My mother said, my father already had enough responsibilities of his own. After finishing what he was doing, he would now have to carry somebody else’s load. There was a day one young woman in the compound quarrelled with her and told her something. Because my mother doesn’t even like to say these things because she is the kind of person who is always cautious about what she says to people. The woman told her, “After you have killed your own husband with stress, you now want to start using somebody else’s husband to run errands for you; you think we did not see you??” The woman started getting angry and crying, like she wanted to gaslight her. Go and check a lot of homes. Stress everyday. Everyday quarrel. Everyday fighting. There was a friend of mine who used to do the same thing to her husband. They were only three years into their marriage. She would call me and say, “See what my husband did every time.” And if you check the complaint, very meaningless stuffs. I told her, “Babe, calm down. If you lose this man with all these things you are doing, I’m not even talking about divorce this time around. If this man dies, you will regret the day you were born.” (That man was more or less the breadwinner for her. She wasn’t doing anything.) I told her, “Calm down. Take care of your husband. Let him be. Let him do his thing cos he’s an adult.” There was a time her husband fell ill. He couldn’t work nor do anything. She came to me crying. I told her, “It’s only sickness o. Now imagine you lose this man. This one na sign God just give you” A lot of women pressure their husbands without even knowing what that man is already going through as a person, because men don’t speak. They will put pressure and pressure and pressure until they lose that man. Then they start crying at the burial, as if they were not part of what that man was going through. They think to kill somebody is by gun or any physical stuffs. There are different ways you can destroy somebody’s health and wellbeing. If you think this post is a lie. Go and speak to a mortuary attendant. They will tell you the percentage of men they bring to the mortuary every day is over 70% compared to women. But when it comes to childbirth, women will come here and rant. Let’s not even talk about how a lot of women are slowly poisoning their husbands.