Emma

Some of you really want the rest of us to believe that “agency” is the correct buzzword to apply to a mere slip of a girl whose parents are profiting from a porn career she started as a teen. If your pimp parents don’t even care enough about your welfare to tell you how STI’s are transmitted, hire you bodyguards so that someone is there to stop men ejaculating into your eyes against your will, or worry about the damage to your insides that 100-1000 sex acts in a day could cause…what kind of environment were you reared in? I have questions And one of those questions is “why are these parents involved in this at all?” There is no world in which I would have gone “I’m going to do porn” and my parents would have been like “oh cool idea pumpkin, let me help you”. It is so creepy that any parent is this involved in their child having sex. Especially sex which can only be described as dangerous, reckless and unhealthy. For a mother to actively facilitate this and a father to be friends with men who watch his daughter’s videos is insane. I’m not going to look at a girl who is having to disassociate to get through her “empowering” experience, and is crying afterwards, and just believe this is healthy for her. That it’s good enough for her because she said yes to that harm. How can anyone fail to notice that she is surrounded by people who don’t have her best interests at heart? People who are financially invested in her continuing to do this? One of the issues, here, as evidenced by the men calling her a whore in my comments, is that there is a subset of people who believe that some women really are made for this kind of mistreatment. They think there is an abusable, “gagging for it” class of women who are just good time girls looking for a very bad time. They think some women really deep down want to be used, abused, hurt, and given no pleasure or joy from sex at all. Perhaps they even think that the abuse is the pleasure to these women. They have no idea how much trauma and suffering, propaganda, or mental illness, has to be involved for someone to act against their own survival, safety, joy and wellbeing in such a monumental way. The idea that any woman is designed for this is the pimp and the pornographers lie. It is the punters lie too. The lie of the voyeur with his trousers down who wants to justify his failure to see the dehumanised woman as a person exactly like himself and to therefore be horrified at what is happening. If someone set themselves on fire in public, you wouldn’t heap on gasoline, but when something thrills men it must be the case that the person self harming is perfectly free to choose it and therefore deserves whatever happens. These women, these girls, who get into this have already been so comprehensively failed by those who should protect them. I don’t want any part of the chorus of baritones and sopranos shouting “whore” and failing one of them again Or baying like the bear baiters of old as she goes forward to do the same, and even more destructive things, a second time Even the meanest power of moral reasoning and compassion should be able to see that there are issues here