Mel

I have a love-and-hate relationship with this fandom lately. Sometimes, I feel like the love is slowly getting smaller, and I can probably count on my fingers the number of things that still make me genuinely happy here. I honestly can't believe how little trust some of you have in JossGawin, especially Joss. It's as if you don't trust him at all. Everything he does, and even everything he doesn't do, becomes a question. He constantly has to explain himself, prove something, or reassure people. Does he really have to prove his worth and intentions every single day? Of course, we miss them. And believe me, I miss Joss so damn much. Sometimes, it feels like there's a part of me that's missing because I haven't seen him in a while. But have you ever stopped to think about why he might have become less active in sharing things with us? Maybe the constant scrutiny, suspicion, and questioning have something to do with it. The insecurities and obsession surrounding him are becoming too much. It's as if some people want to keep him in one place, control who he spends time with, question his friendships, and scrutinize every little thing he does. Why this? Why that? Who is he with? Why is he doing this? Does he really have to live under that kind of constant judgment? We say we love and support him, but sometimes our actions say otherwise. Trust should not be something he has to earn again every single day. And while we're spending so much energy questioning, assuming, and creating negative narratives, we still have something important happening. Heat and Beat Fancon is coming, and we haven't sold out yet! Why don't we put that energy into promoting JossGawin instead? Let's help fill those seats, spread the excitement, and show our support through actions rather than endless speculation. I'm already feeling unwell, and honestly, seeing all these negative posts is making me feel even worse. I think I need to distance myself for a while. Maybe I should have done this a long time ago, but I kept holding on because of JG. I miss the fandom we used to have. The happiness, the excitement, the genuine support, and the feeling that we were all here for the same reason. It doesn't feel the same anymore. The atmosphere has changed, and lately, it's becoming uglier than I ever expected. I still love JossGawin. That hasn't changed. But I'm slowly realizing that loving them doesn't mean I have to stay in an environment that constantly drains me. Sometimes, taking a step back is not giving up on the people you support. It's simply choosing to protect the happiness that made you love them in the first place.