Rant incoming. The other day I had an argument with a coworker who thinks BDSM is r^pe. He discovered that a couple he’s friends with is into BDSM and now he’s thinking of breaking ties with them and even reporting him. His good friend, r^ping his wife… Instead of listening to them and exploring what BDSM ACTUALLY is. “But the pain isn’t played, it’s real! He’s hurting her!” Yes. Yes it’s real. And if they do it right, which I presume, they’ve talked a lot about it beforehand and tried and modified and explored what kind and what intensity of pain SHE LIKES. And what not to do. Because she’s clearly somewhere on the masochist spectrum and yes that’s different for everyone. One might just like a tap on the ass, another a good spanking and another climaxes during what others would experience as outright torture. It’s a fascinating culture of love, informed consent, rules and boundaries. Much more than the average, casual hookup. Don’t judge a book by its cover. Read it.

Welcome back 🤗 I know that feeling, sometimes life just sucks out all the energy and not even porn helps. But we’ll always be back, so that’s okay 🥰