DEACON (His Holiness)

THIS IS NOT OK. WE ARE LOSING OUR VIRTUOUS WOMEN ALL IN THE NAME OF BABY MAMAS, SINGLE MOTHERS AND FORNICATION. 📌 Tokunbo Idowu, popularly known as TBoss, welcomed a daughter in August 2019 while unmarried. Her daughter’s paternity became a subject of widespread speculation, with Dino Melaye publicly denying being the father and distancing himself from any romantic relationship with her. Uti Nwachukwu also distanced himself from rumours linking him to TBoss. When asked about her daughter’s father’s identity, she famously responded, “How would that information help you or your life?” In December 2019, TBoss also publicly defended the idea that babies are not exclusively for married people, embracing the position that parenthood need not be confined to marriage. That position, however, is fundamentally at odds with the biblical ideal of marriage and responsible parenthood, as well as traditional African expectations concerning marriage, family formation and the responsibilities that accompany raising children. Her daughter is entirely innocent of her mother’s personal circumstances. But when someone with such a publicly discussed personal history suddenly declares that Nigeria is losing its men because of expressive fashion, the hypocrisy is difficult to ignore. You cannot invoke traditional morality to police grown men’s harmless self-expression while conveniently overlooking its expectations concerning marriage, sexual responsibility and family formation. Marriage and responsible parenthood are deeply rooted in African traditional values. Christianity equally upholds marriage and condemns sexual immorality. Single motherhood, baby-mama culture or fornication are not endorsed by biblical standards or traditional African ideals of marriage and family responsibility. 1 Corinthians 6:9–10 (KJV) “Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers…” Hebrews 13:4 (KJV) “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” Deuteronomy 23:2 (KJV) “A bastard shall not enter into the congregation of the Lord…” And perhaps the most appropriate reminder of all: Matthew 7:3 (KJV) “And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam in thine own eye?” The problem is not that TBoss is a single mother. The problem is the selective application of morality: expressive fashion becomes a national crisis, yet questions about her own sexual immorality, marriage and family responsibility are suddenly expected to attract nothing but kindness, understanding and unconditional acceptance. Men wearing unconventional outfits are not destroying Nigeria. Non-marital family structures, hypocrisy, selective outrage and the refusal to apply moral standards consistently are far more deserving of public condemnation. Tokunbo Idowu, the mirror is right here. 📌

The same people who are homophobic, femphobic and intolerant of other people’s harmless lifestyles will suddenly cry racism, misogyny, patriarchy, xenophobia, classism, colorism and religious intolerance when the prejudice is directed at them. You demand respect for your own lives and beliefs but refuse others the same courtesy? The irony is fucking astounding. Using 1% of men who dress femininely to represent ALL Nigerian men or as an attack on masculinity is the same ignorant logic as using one black person to define an entire race. Africans fight every day not to be degraded or treated as animals or lesser because of their skin color or differences, yet you turn around and hate, ridicule and degrade your fellow black people over harmless, perfectly natural differences. The irony is almost pathological. “Men used to go to war.” Well, women used to shut up, cook, be baby factories and tolerate abuse from men. Should we take society back to all of that too, or does selective nostalgia suddenly become inconvenient when the historical precedent doesn’t favour you? And the funniest part? Heels, corsets, makeup, heavy jewellery and other things you now associate with femininity were historically worn by men. Masculinity has never been as rigid or historically consistent as your arguments suggest. You don’t have to like everybody, agree with everybody or embrace every lifestyle. But you can absolutely let people live their lives without turning their harmless existence into a fucking cultural emergency. This is not love, y’all are full of HATE and that is why we are still backward and retarded as a race! Bigotry and intellectual bankruptcy in one package. The convulsions are genuinely astounding. 📌