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For me personally, this topic fascinates me. Do pastors have an entity or institution from which they operate under? A body that unifies them? Because that would be interesting. Would love someone to get them all in the same place and ask them all a few questions. Why some say they can perform miracles and why others dispute that? Do they physically talk to God? What does his voice sound like? In what Language, English or Luganda? Does he have an accent? American? British? Indian? Rukiga? For those that have seen him, what does he look like? Is he tall? Or a short king? Or just a globe of light? What does heaven look like? Are there houses there? Eco-friendly grass-thatched or concrete? Grass fields or trees mostly? Where is it? On a different planet? What is the atmospheric composition? Are we breathing oxygen freely with our noses? What's the gravity situation? Are we floating or walking firm on the ground? The miracles. Who gets the anointing to be able to perform them? The best talkers? Those with less sin? Why you and not the others. And why this person in your church that you can lay hands on and not the famished baby in Somalia? Why the falling? What if someone cracks their skull? And if they cannot, then why the charade of trying to catch them if it's the spirit's will? The holy totems. The holy rings, holy water, holy bread, blessed oils, blessed salt.. Why them? Why not like a holy PS5 that a person can play on and every game they win a miracle happens in their life? Or a holy plate. Where if offered to a hungry person, whatever little food they place on it is multiplied like Jesus did with bread and fish? Why do all of you have differing versions of who God is, What he does, how he does it and to whom? Nze honestly I'm a really curious bystander looking at all this play out and very few answers

Admin I know you've got connections with those police officials who keep advising us on things but please beg them to get officers back on the streets. We need police back on the streets and back in our home areas. People are genuinely afraid. In our area last night a young man was getting robbed, 11pm, by a group of thugs. He was from work heading home. He even had nothing significant on him they could take. So they told him to sit on the ground and take off the NIKE sneakers he was wearing. While he was seated down, pleading, unlacing the sneakers, car headlights suddenly appeared and the thugs ran. But the car driver did not know that the young man was a victim. When he saw him laying down in the middle of the road, he thought it was some plot to get him to stop so the rest can jump out, because he had seen them run. Instead of stopping, driver just put his foot on the gas even harder and ran over the young man. He is now in hospital fighting for his life. People are so scared of the security situation in this country that they have even started killing the wrong people in self defense. Please police, we need foot patrols back in our home areas and on our streets

Admin see what I said about these chicks in public spaces constantly letting us down? And then that chick saying that hours later? As women we need to learn the difference between preference and contempt. The people saying, “Why are you bothered by her choice? We all have preferences.” Absolutely. You are free to choose whatever you want. But there is an important distinction between preference and contempt. Preference says: “This is what I want for myself.” Contempt says: “People who don't have this are beneath me.” The first is perfectly legitimate. The second is an attitude, and people are perfectly entitled to react to it. You can have whatever standards you like. You can insist on wealth, height, education, status, looks, religion, lifestyle, or anything else. Nobody is obligated to date you, but nobody is obligated to applaud your criteria either. “It's my choice” establishes your freedom to make the choice. It does not establish that the choice is realistic, measurable to you, or immune from criticism. The freedom you have to those choices does not somehow repeal the consequences. There is nothing offensive about saying, “I want a man with money.” But there is something quite different about you saying, “I cannot date a man without money.” Takes someone who understands the English language to notice that those two aren't the same thing. The first statement is something you wish for yourself. The second one gives away your materialism AKA a gold-digging bitch. And people love to judge those. You don't get to convert contempt into “just a preference” and then demand that everyone else treat it as a private choice. Not every choice is a good choice simply because it is a choice. And not every opinion becomes immune from consequences simply because someone has the freedom to express it. You have the right to set your standards. But everyone else has the right to observe what those standards say about you, and to decide what they think of them.

This 50-50 thing.. Admin as you see, i am a woman. An older woman. So i grew up in a world where gender roles existed. Where the man was the express head and provider of the household. And the woman stayed home and took care of the housework and the kids. And for the women that want that, i support that. But lets put things in context for a second: You'd have to live in a bubble to not know that times have changed. And with it, the economy. Your father, most of our fathers, did not have to pay rent. Most inherited houses from their own families. If it wasn't that, it was the land. Or farmland. Your men are not inheriting anything anymore because there's nothing left to inherit. A lot of these guys are starting from zero. Even us as women have changed. The people that are talking about 50-50 then doing the chores, which chores, if you're employed? Washing the dishes? How many dishes? You're two people! Mopping a tiny house? The same space you're staying in with him? Most of you dont even have his kid, or want any. So what are these house chores you all think count up to your 50%? We had this discussion at office yesterday given that post, and this is a list of just the few things that the men in the office said their women ask them for. And honestly, its ridiculous: - Transport when you meet up. - Handle the bill when you meet up. - Airtime/Data - She's sick - Hair/nails - Upkeep/allowance/Kameeza - Going out/Nights out - Gifting - My mom/little bro is sick - Paying her rent (sometimes) Seriously.. Unless that man is one of the very few 20%ers that are doing very well in this country, girls, what are we doing? Your mom didn't ask for all those things from your dad. And that man had a starting point. Its why context is important. Its why unless you find a really smart set of people to discuss these topics, people will never understand. Like i said, we had this conversation yesterday at office. 6 guys there said they had stayed away from dating because the cost is too high. And i admired that. But my question is, why are us women too entitled to not feel the same? Why don't broke women also realize its foolhardy to date someone's son with nothing to give? Because you're a burden. And one day you're not going to be worth the effort. Yes, i agree with 50-50. Unless your man is wealthy, help him out. Be useful. Anybody that truly loves anybody would hate to see them struggle because of them. Its empathy but its also common sense.

Admin i made it from Russia. I eacaped. 4 of us did. Unfortunately two other Ugandan friends died there. I am even crying writing this. I told myself i wasn't going to get on social media and say anything but the nightmares i get are too much. I studied Engineering. Graduated with honors in 2024. I had struggled for a good job but had work. Only for someone to contact me via my LinkedIn profile last year. It was a lady. A munyankore lady. An opening to train and learn fixing machines in a factory in Russia. Two months later i found out there were others going with me. 8 other individuals. We got very quick help with our passports, visas were cleared, transportation was free, and accomodation there would be free. We transited through Istanbul, then made it Moscow. Moment we got there, our passports were taken, they provided us contracts in Russian, and you cant have your phone to translate so people just signed because you knew you were in trouble already, and then only to find out the job descriptions had changed. You left that room, talked to everyone else and thats when you found out you were fucked. I remember this Bangladeshi guy walking to us and saying.. "African? You are sacrifice. We all are. What are you doing here?" I told him "Engineer." He laughed and replied, "Dead Engineer. They are taking us to fight." When we later got the contract translated, the offer was $2000 every month and Russian citizenship. I remember this Russian guy telling us in broken English "You speak English. We want. They give you jobs behind. No frontline." Then he turned and told his friends "Myortvye obezyanyi". Dead Monkeys. Which is something we would hear a lot. And it came to be true. Me, another guy called Lukembo Jimmy, and Tumwebaze Deogratius (both dead) were placed in the most high risk infantry roles on the frontline. The Storm Z unit. Made up of Russian prisoners for the most part. Expendable. You were not meant to come back and they knew it. It was the same for every African there. Kenyans, Nigerians, Ghanaians, South Africans. If they wanted to know a Ukrainian machine gunner position, they force you to go. We had guns to our heads to run out of an MTLB. Which is a tractor. We were sent to the frontline in the back of a tractor. While their soldiers are safe in APCs. 😭 The moment we jumped out bullets started raining down from a tree line. People died. Jimmy and Deo died, admin. We were so many someone just tripped me as i was running and i fell and i realised i could stay down. This was January so winter. Whoever the machine gunner was just sprayed more bullets to make sure and then the Russian drones buzzing became too much you knew they had located him and were pursuing him. It was the plan all along. Sacrifice us to know the position of the Ukrainian fighters. 5 of us would get evacuated later in the night. I had never been that cold. But only reason we were evacuated is because they wanted back one of their own. One of the people that told us to go on gun point. I would later desert the base with 4 other people. A Turkish guy had contacted an NGO called Idite Lesom and they had advised us on a town to go, where to avoid. I am back because of them. Forever grateful 😭

Btw let me say this to fellow family people and rest of you that are going to have families. I hear a lot being said about housemaids. And i dont understand it. Unless you were born in the 1960s, 2026 should be an age where we all agree hoisemaids are not some personal slave. It is employment and should have all the perks and workers rights afforded to any other worker, and your home viewed like every other workplace. Maids do get sick. Maids need breaks. Maids deserve off days. Maids should be paid in time, and should be paid well. If you cannot do those things, you shouldn't be part of the conversation about how maids are difficult people. Because you're also a terrible employer. You cannot fault them for wanting to leave every 5 months when you're paying them crap. How many people would leave their place of work if they are getting paid well? You cannot fault them for getting men either, you didn't hire a nun. Their job description is to do work for you around the house. That job description did not take away their hormones and natural instinct to mate and breed. Talk to them, involve yourself, and maybe you can extend that timeline a bit. But its going to happen. They are human. They want to be loved and want to have kids too. Its a given. A lot of us do not know what good employment of a maid should be like because we have never experienced it. We grew up in households where they were literal slaves. And so that history acclimatized us to all the wrong perceptions of what a house help is and isnt. Lastly, always remember that you do not have to have one. No one is forcing you to. Its your work and home life, figure it out. Do not have 4 kids and spread yourself thin. They are always going to be your personal choices that lead you to needing one.