who keep the adoption industry humming on the backs of helpless infants & then turn around and want to act as if they had no clue & are super interested in adoption trauma need to take a long hard look in the mirror.

generations were uneducated about #adoption & there was little out there for even the most well-intentioned folks. That’s not true anymore. We are talking about #adoption. We are finding our families. We’re writing books & we’re getting laws changed to open our records. APs ...

Sorry to highjack your thread, Jill. Just been really bothered lately by APs and some adoptees who act as if the lifelong trauma & loss is somehow a *surprise* to APs & not anything they knew or could have anticipated. It’s disingenuous & I’m tired of it. Sure - maybe previous ..

It cracks me up that people suggest that APs of infants care about adoption-related trauma. C’mon. Get real. They paid $50k to pretend the kid is theirs. They cut this kid off from her family & changed her birth cert. They knew what they were doing & they did it for themselves.

Exactly, Jill. A baby may need care. Temporarily or for longer. Let’s provide that. There’s no need to also wipe out their identity, create a fake birth certificate for them, sever them from their family tree & keep them from knowing where they come from. That’s all for APs.

So I feel like society needs to get consistent on this: is it a secret that we shouldn’t have to reveal & our birth mothers deserve “privacy,” or is it something that should be freely disclosed on a form like this? Can’t have it both ways. #adoption