She Waits for Rain Some guys feel stuck in a holding pattern until women become more feminine and let them lead. But men have a hidden power that can change the game. Here’s how his masculinity unlocks her femininity. When the ancients looked at our sexually charged world, they saw a masculine initiative booming in the Heaven’s thunderclouds, and a feminine fruitfulness responding in the Earth’s bounty. As a woman’s body needs a man’s seed to make a child, the thirsty ground needs rain to grow life. Not all soil is equally fertile, but without water it hardly matters: she just makes twisted thorns that cling to any hint of moisture. When Heaven wakes up with his fierce power, she can finally respond with her tender flowers and lush fruit. It’s physical and psychological. Imagine a modern woman lost in the jungle. Nature is dangerous and survival is hard. She’d need to adopt a masculine frame for even a chance. Here she’s like a weaker, less aggressive, and more anxious man. Tender femininity isn't an option. Her sex drive shuts down, because her body knows that pregnancy is a death sentence. Now she suddenly finds a man alongside her. He's got a high testosterone biology: physical strength to take on the harder tasks and a psychological bent to relish the fight. With his protection and heavy lifting, she naturally focuses on tasks she can do equally well. She sews skins together for clothing, cleans his kills and cooks, stokes the fire, makes the hut a home, etc. No longer anxious, she feels safe and even sexually aroused. His masculinity has unlocked her femininity. It's still here in the modern world. Her tech-driven physical prosperity leaves her femininity dormant without feeling his masculine presence. For years, I thought I was a good husband, and yet my wife had the mental experience of trying to hack her way through the jungle alone. She was drowning in stress with the kids, with me agreeing to “whatever you want, honey.” Sex felt forced and unwelcome. I wondered why she’d let her desire die. But then I did the work of becoming, in my late thirties, a grown-ass man. I quit porn. I got my fitness in order. I dressed better. I became confident. I treated my own passions and desires with capable leadership. I started seeing my home as my ship to captain. And I discovered that women who talk about “emotional needs” and “mental load,” are actually just wanting life with a genuine man. When I changed myself, she initially tested me a bunch to see if I was for real. Now she adores me. And she’s more feminine than ever. Men get blamed for everything. But if the ball’s in our court, that means there’s power in our hands to get what we want! I’ve coached men in marriage after marriage where it looked like he was helpless with his shrew of a wife. Yet equipped with the right tools and framework everything changed. He took charge and became the sort of man he always wanted to be anyway, and then the harpy melted into his arms. She may truly be impossibly bad soil, but he'll never know until he lets loose the rain. Human bodies and minds will always expect men to lead. Feminism notwithstanding, women still depend on our initiative for sexual arousal, for attraction, for married life, and even for her feeling generally safe and relaxed in society. Women have agency of course, but their relaxed flourishing exists in the space wrestled from chaos and given to them. Without us, they take on the tigers themselves, and femininity withers on the vine. The ball is in our court! Take the lead, and her whole landscape can change. Sing ye heavens, and earth reply.