Kolade.

Glad I am in a position to speak on this as a financially stable woman. The problem is that at the core of your stability, you still see relationships as transactional and not mutually symbiotic. It’s still “what can I get from him” not “what can we do together”. Your financial stability does not change the fact that you’re still in the market for the highest bidder. Chickens and peacocks are sometimes sold in same market. Because one cost pass and get class pass no mean say e no still Dey for sale. When you stop seeing relationships as transactions, you will understand why you need a man who genuinely loves you regardless of his finances. That’s why a lot of you become the archetypal “stingy, toxic but financially stable ex”. You can date a man when he has money but once he goes through a hard time, you start disrespecting him, you start going out with other “rich” men, you turn every financial support you offer him into an insult and at the end when he leaves when things get better for him again, you come up with “after everything I did for him” but what you did was kick a man who was already down. Just do your okpo work with your full chest and stop using the guise of “I can pay my bills so why do I need a man”. You still dey find who to pay your bills not who to love. A real financially stable woman does not prioritize a man’s finances over the countless other benefits of love, relationships and marriage. She knows he can be broke today but as long as he is grinding, anything can change for him in the blink of an eye. She focuses on what they can achieve together. Not what he can do for her alone. Expensive digging farm tool 🥲