Adult children rarely “walk away” from parents lightly. Years of emotional strain, boundary violations, or harm usually precede estrangement. Therapy helps communication, boundaries & mutual accountability, it’s not about splitting families. Estrangement is a last resort.
To clarify: We reported the bugs, hair, stained bedding to @Airbnb within hours of arrival (9 Aug) and left that night. Airbnb’s own policy says full refund if it’s unclean at check-in, reported in 24hrs, and you vacate. We meet all 3. Still waiting. #Airbnb #HolidayNightmare
And sometimes we don’t learn this as children (a lot of us) so as adults we need to learn this and unlearn what we have been taught about being in relationship. Notice the word being. We need the embodied experience… instagram.com/p/B5sUEpMA1A1/…
Writing a letter (or letters) to our inner child can be so helpful for us to integrate our inner knowing and soothe our fears. To help us in our self healing.
Lots of us are still running in survival mode, using… instagram.com/p/B5porTRgnpt/…
There can be a part in the beginning of therapy when if feels very very unfair we are the ones who have to do the work. Embark on our own healing journey.
If we ask ourselves how old we feel when we feel this… instagram.com/p/B5pGJPQgbOY/…
BOUNDARIES ARE A KINDNESS TO OURSELVES AND OTHERS
What healthy boundaries could we begin to give ourselves permission to have?
Here are some ideas ... as you go thru these, and add any others, it may be helpful to… instagram.com/p/B5hnLjkgLxQ/…
Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes, more often than not its silent. Silent courage. We are the only ones who know about it.
We hear a lot about being brave, strong or resilient.
Courage comes from the latin… instagram.com/p/B5hg8rrA0yO/…
RESILIENCE
We have it without knowing it
Healing is exhausting but not as exhausting as the confusion of going round in circles and spiralling down, often.
Learning its ok to have our feelings, making space for… instagram.com/p/B5UvABkgAPP/…
It can be so hard for us on a healing journey. We often begin our healing because we feel we can’t cope with the what we are feeling any more i.e. depression and anxiety. On the healing journey we begin to wake up… instagram.com/p/B5QvgnlAn7V/…
Its worth making a personal list of the ways we betray ourselves so we can become more aware of our patterns.
What are your ways of betraying self?
We may never have considered we are betraying self only we know… instagram.com/p/B4rdtZggXqq/…
This was one of the first things I did on my healing journey and I have kept pretty much to it since.
When our nervous systems are over loaded, we struggle with anxiety, depression or feeling unhappy, to load our… instagram.com/p/B4reo3fA95-/…
PRACTICE daily being present, conscious, raise our awareness.
Give voice, learn to OWN, express, own, COMMUNICATE our feelings and experience. TELL YOUR STORY find someone safe to tell your story to.
USE YOUR BODY… instagram.com/p/B4prUokgpBY/…
We need to step forward to do the work. It’s not easy. Its not just changing the way we think, its also working thru our patterns of relating and our coping mechanisms. It’s hard work changing our automatic defaults… instagram.com/p/B4pmSrXg8gK/…
Growth is about being able to step back, breathe, move out of reactive and realise this: Its more about what is going on for the other person, a reflection of who they believe themselves to be or their narrative and… instagram.com/p/B4R2PaEg7SC/…
Tool to help heal:
This affirmation below takes consistent daily practice
At least 30 days to change a habit
It’s not a quick fix.
We need to learn to be patient with ourselves.
Affirmations change our brains… instagram.com/p/B4Rz8C2ASqj/…
We don’t feel happy. We feel sad and berate ourselves for it. We tell ourselves we have nothing to be sad about in comparison to what others are going thru, we can’t acknowledge how sad we do actually feel an why.… instagram.com/p/B4Rv8J0gbO7/…
A gentle reminder
We are all doing the best we can
Doing this work is so hard, it can send us into shame spirals
Know this is normal as we battle our inner critic
This always help me see there is far more to our… instagram.com/p/B4PVcArj3UJ/…
This can be be a helpful tool to work through forgiveness. I say work thru because forgiveness is also a process. Often we first need to work thru acceptance.
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Acceptance of what has happened, acceptance we are… instagram.com/p/B4PUbgcDxSF/…
The same neural pathways are used when we have a drug hit. Things going well then suddenly we are back in reactive states, deregulating, sabotaging all our work with our inner critic saying ‘you are not healing… instagram.com/p/B4PS6G8DJhX/…