Please, let's just be friends

There's a common behavioural trait that you see among the more rural parts of Indonesia and also Philippines to an extent. My family had an Indonesian helper for many years. We probably only found out too late that she sent almost every last cent home and kept none for herself. And surprise, her family splurged it on luxuries and random extended family requests instead of saving it to build a better future. When it was time for her to go back, we gave her a lump sum so she could fulfil her dreams of starting a small business back home. And unfortunately, that got used up pretty quick. Essentially got guilt tripped by her family and relatives into sharing it with them because of all sorts of trumped up reasons - took care of your mother while you're away, my son wants to set up a business too, you definitely still have a lot more after working in SG for so long etc. And you realize it's a very simple truth at the end of the day. To them at a family/village level, the wealth difference between you and them is more important than on an absolute basis. They'd rather you be poor together with them than being collectively rich if it resulted in you having much more than them. Now apply this to a geographical level and that's what you get. That's why I don't really blame the likes of Prabowo. Politics is a dirty game and if you buy into this sort of sable-rattling and fail at the IQ test, you deserve to be poor and screwed over anyway.