Social worker: She let him back in the house, even though there was an protective order in place. Me: (a little bit snarky): Were you there when she let him? Did you see her open the door for him? Social worker: No, no. I wasn't there. I didn't actual see it. He was just there when I went to the house. Me: So given his history of violence, threats and control and given that the judge made the order against him, it would be better, and more accurate, to say "Dad chose to violate the court order" and not assume that "she let him back in" but to consider how this was a continuation of his pattern of abuse. Accountability starts with language. @StopBlamingMothers #StopIgnoringFathers @safeandtogether #CoerciveControl