How to make people want what you sell. There’s a machine behind every yes, and nobody ever showed you how it works. I do, here and in my book ↓

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Everyone tells you to “be more persuasive.” Nobody can tell you what persuasion actually is, which is why most people focus on pitching better. But that’s just one part of persuasion, and almost nobody who sells for a living can name the rest. By the end of this you will. 🧵
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10/10 post. If you look at the most successful people in this game, you’ll see they’re all heavy on principles. This is a list of principles, and good ones. And if you pay attention, you’ll notice 4 of them have a similar base: ‣ #1, identity mirroring: use the identity he already has ‣ #9, association: borrow a belief he already has about something else ‣ #12, metaphor: map the new idea on to one he already has ‣ #14, changing beliefs: start from what he already believes, then widen it Every time, you’re working with what’s already in his head. Which makes sense when you think about it: anything new has to get past his guard, whereas anything he already has, he’s done the work of believing it for you.
Shallom nigga. It's been a while. Here's 15 laughably powerful persuasion and behavioral sceince principles that you can immediately implement to print more money from your ads, your funnel, your emails, your content, etc. You can just copy and paste this post into whatever agent you use for your copy, create a checklist and tell it to audit its output against it the checklist. Do it RIGHT NOW nigga don't delay. Alr here we go: 1. Identity mirroring. Everyone has an identity that they project internally and externally. And 9 times out of 10 these identities are idealized versions of who they THINK they should be. Humans have consistency bias, which means they want to act in a way that ALIGNS with the identity they hold. If you have a strong understanding of the identities that your avatars and sub-avatars internalize then you can literally call them out in your copy and mirror them so that your sales argument is something that THEY NATURALLY ALLIGN WITH. Example 1: survival niche Avatar 1: 40-60 year old men with families, conservative, traditional values. Identity/identities: providers, protectors, man of the house, etc. Mirror: “True protectors take action to keep their families safe.” Example 2: B2S info/ coaching offer. Avatar: young, self-made entrepreneurs Identity: driven, successful, hard-working. Mirror: “Every success entrepreneur took a huge risk that ended up paying off.” You can apply around with these mirrors and then use them as a base for your actual copy. 2. Perception IS reality. If your market believes that all gurus are scammers then that is the reality that YOU as the marketer now reside in. Your job is to understand which perceptions stand in the way of your sales argument and which perceptions can actually HELP you. It takes good instincts to know which is which. This is why in depth avatar research is so fucking important because you need to understand the ETHOS of a given market (will go in-depth on this in a later post). In the example I made, you don’t try to convince them that not all gurus are scammers. Maybe you could do that but it’s less efficient. It’s way easier to just position yourself as being anti-guru. You hate gurus too. You aren’t a guru. Which is funny because some of the biggest info clingers on the planet use this principle. 3. People act out of sub-conscious emotional triggers and use logically acceptable NARRATIVES based on their biases & desires to justify that decision. The best copywriters understand the core desires and use language that hijacks the prospects existing logical narrative to push a point home. This is where marketers fuck up, your prospects don’t need an objective logical analysis of the decision, they need a statement that SOUNDS logical/ socially acceptable to them. Example: AI offer. Core emotion: FOMO. **THIS IS WHAT THEY ACT ON Logical narrative the prospect uses to justify the action: "The economy is shifting, and AI is changing everything. If I don't buy into this masterclass/tool right now, I’m going to get left behind. It’s irresponsible not to have this." 4. Justification looping. Every single thing that you say needs to be logically, intuitively justifiable by your prospect. Most people stop at justifying their mechanism, justifying claims about why things their market has tried didn’t work, all the basic shit. But have you justified your offer? Why are you giving them such a “no-brainer” offer? If you have urgency elements in your copy/ on your lander, have you explained WHY this is urgent? If you introduce scarcity, do you have an actual reason why this is scarce? You need to understand that extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence. If you don’t provide that evidence then your prospect will automatically call bullshit. 5. The way you say something can be more important than the thing you say, especially when you have a skeptical/ highly sophisticated market (I’ll get to this in a second). This is obviously specific to video ads/ VSLs, good example was the yapper ad trend. If you look at some of the most popular yappers (ads and TikTok shop videos), the delivery in terms of the pacing, tonality and cadence is all intentionally trying to lower your guard and make you feel like this is just another video on your feed. Another good example is Tony Robbins. When he needs to drive a point home he increases his volume, he using pauses to give you space to digest his point. Now imagine for example you’re scripting an ad for a marketing offer to a skeptical, sophisticated market and you want to take the angle of other market agencies being scammers. If your vocal DELIVERY in that ad doesn’t match the premise of what you’re trying to say, your market is going to immediately reject you. 6. People believe that their situation is unique. And they’re looking for reasons why your offer WOULDN’T work for them. The most common obstacle that occurs in a sales process is some version of “Will this work for my specific situation”. If you’ve ever been in a sales org you know this. You need to go through your market research flows and make sure you have enough data for a deep understand of the unique situational constraints that your market has (both real and perceived). Make a list, have AI order them by commonality then audit your ads, VSLs and landers and ask yourself if you’re overcoming the most common ones. Are you overcoming them at all? Are there any constraints that would be specific to an angle you’re running that you haven’t even mentioned in the ad? (This is a very common mistake). 7. Human behavior is ultimately driven by three fundamental psychological needs: Autonomy: The deep desire to be the author of one's own life, free from constraint. Competence: The urge to feel effective, skilled, and capable of overcoming challenges. Relatedness: The craving for belonging, status, and connection within a tribe or peer group. These core needs directly influence people’s motivators when the actualization of any of those needs is threatened. "Competence" example: “I’ve been trying to make my ads work for weeks I need to figure this out”. This is their CONDITION. And they naturally become receptive to any message that aligns with that condition. And so to align with that condition you can make them feel competent by telling them that they already have the skills, they already have the knowledge, they’re just missing one small thing that will make it all click. This kind of narrative is literally EVERYWHERE, especially in the online marketing/ coaching space. If you want to do more autism research into this just loop up “Self-Determination Theory, Dr. Edward L. Deci” 8. Dimensionalization. You want to use words that burrow into people’s brain and infect it with your message. Notice the words I used. “Infect” “burrow”. It FEELS like some foreign parasite taking control. Doing this is simple: take any vague, abstract line of copy (especially when describing a problem or making a change-state claim) and think “how can I make someone feel, see, hear, smell, taste this idea”. 9. Associations can be more powerful than outright declarations. Think about the supplement offers like turmeric pills that claim that ancient cultures used the core ingredients for their gut health (or whatever). Association with ancient cultures = healthier, more natural. Second-order assumption = this product is healthier and more natural. Now take shit like bull testicle pills for testosterone. Association with bulls = high testosterone, high vitality. Second-order assumption = this product will increase my testosterone. It doesn’t even matter if it’s true or not, the association did all of the selling for you. Another example: Amazon FBA mass market bizop. Association with Amazon: Amazon is a massive, billion dollar business. Second-order assumption: If I sell on Amazon there’s a high likelihood that I’ll make money. Here’s the thing, you can exploit this even if you’re selling a product/ service without an obvious association. I like to do this by taking whatever my core methodology (or mechanism) is and connecting a specific aspect of it to an anchor (a key figure/ thought leader, a company, a culture) that my market idolizes. Example: I’m selling a metal focus offer to entrepreneurs. Entrepreneurs idolize Elon Musk. Elon Musk uses “algorithmic thinking”, which my offer teaches. Notice how this is different from authority proof (which a lot of people implement) since we aren’t claiming that the anchor actually used the product. They don't need to because the ASSOCIATION is just as powerful. 10. The second your ad appears on someone’s feed, that person’s brain is subconsciously looking for ANY reason to ignore you. The brain is bombarded with millions of stimuli every single day. To actually PAY ATTENTION to a stimuli, the brain has to expend a ton of energy. And since the brain wants to conserve energy, it decides to filter out what it predicts as “sameness”. (Look up the reticular activating system (RAS) if you want to go into detail). The most effective way to bypass the RAS is by presenting an idea of reality that’s so bizarre, counter-intuitive, mysterious, unbelievable, offensive in your hook/ headline that the brain can’t PREDICT what’s about to happen. Here are some common copy frameworks for this: a. The hidden mechanism/ weird culprit: “This buried IRS loophole lets real estate investors save 80% on their tax”/ “This banana is the real reason why your skin sags after 50” b. Statistical impossibility : “This 4-word email generated $575,789” c. Attacking a universally accepted rule in your market (one of my personal favorites): “Testing more creatives is killing your brand” “Moisturizing your skin every night is giving you more acne” “Here’s how eating pizza for lunch can help you lose more fat than chicken and brocolli” (V-Shred printed multiple 9 figures on the back of this idea btw). d. Herd-follower bias:“The top 1% of law firms are trying to keep Googles new “AI visibility” update a secret” e. The unspoken truth: “here’s what the gurus refuse to tell you about starting an AI agency” f. EXTERNAL CATALYST NIGGAAAA IYKYK (if you don’t know look up “catalyst hooks” on my page you’ll see a full guide : “This new Facebook ads update called sequence learning just killed creative testing” “ 11. The fear of loss is more immediately motivating than the potential of gain. Simplest way to exploit this quickly is by taking any hooks you have running right now that are promise/ outcome/ benefit driven and flip the narrative to a negative. I’m running a hook rn that says “if you want your law firm to lose money you should hire an SEO agency” and it’s one of my top performers. 12. The best way to introduce a new/ novel concept I.e. in your UPM/ USM is a way that makes your prospect inherently understand it is by mapping an unknown concept to a known concept. You do this primarily using metaphors. The “known” part is determined by the sophistication of your market. Unique problem mechanisms example for mass market joint supplement offer (just off the dome): Novel concept: “Age-related joint degradation is caused by matrix metalloproteinases (MMPs) breaking down the extracellular matrix of cartilage faster than chondrocytes can synthesize new collagen.” Re-written with a “known” concept: "Think of your knee joint like the door hinge. When that hinge is brand new, it opens and closes effortlessly because it has a rich layer of grease making everything glide smoothly. Now, imagine what happens if you squirt a drop of acid onto that hinge every single day. That the grease dries up."... "Most people think their knee pain is just 'getting old' or 'wear and tear.' But that’s dead wrong. 'Wear and tear' doesn't cause pain. Corrosive Enzymes do. Inside your joint, your body produces tiny pac-man-like enzymes called MMPs. When you were 20, your body produced enough protective fluid to wash these enzymes away. But as you age, your joint stops producing that protective fluid. Those enzymes get trapped inside your knee joint, eating away at your cartilage like acid on a door hinge until your bones are grinding together with every step you take." 13. You must limit the cognitive load in your prospect as much as humanly possible. When someone is watching your ad, their brain is running on a very limited amount of energy. And if you exhaust that energy, the person is going to scroll. Cognitive overload does NOT mean too long. there are 45-minute VSLs pulling eight figures/month. Overload happens because of processing friction. There are a bunch of ways that you might be creating that friction but the two biggest offenders that I’ve seen: a. Too many overlapping ideas, outcomes, problems or mechanism drivers. These are some of the most cognitively “dense” parts of your message. And so when you keep adding more and more of each you’re just increasing the strain on your prospect’s brain. There’s a reason why most of the copywriting OGs taught to focus on ONE core idea, focus on ONE core reason why everything your prospects have tried before failed. The second offender happens when there’s gaps in your argument that confuse the prospect to the point where they have to fill in the gaps. The simplest example happens when you don’t bridge certain blocks of copy properly or you just don’t include them in the first place. Example of no bridge: “Cold outreach is dead, use our AI software to close more deals.” With the bridge: “Cold outreach is dead because prospect inboxes are saturated with spam filters. Our AI bypasses inbox filters by simulating human writing patterns, dropping your message straight into the primary inbox where 90% of deals are actually closed.” Now these gaps can be incredibly nuanced. An example of another gap: people have semantic associations. These are mental connections between two concepts that are wide spread across a population. Most people think of the liver as a “filter” or the brain as a “muscle” or memory as a “hard drive”. I’m going to use the liver as an example. Let’s say you’re writing about the forces of nature in your mechanism and you talk about the liver acting as a sponge. This might seem insignificant but when someone heard the liver acting as a “sponge” it clashes with their semantics which creates cognitive load. 14. Belief shifts. I hear people talk about it all the time but I haven’t heard a lot of people talk about how you ACTUALLY shift someone’s beliefs. You cannot attack a core belief head-on, or you trigger the backfire effect. This is a cognitive bias in which presenting a person with objective, undeniable facts that contradict their deeply held beliefs does not change their mind. You can spot this bias EVERYWHERE, in normie ragebait reactions, on gender discussion on Reddit, in the comments under your ads, political arguments etc. Instead of attacking that belief, you VALIDATE it as being entirely logical based on their past evidence ("You're right to think cold email is dead, because the old spray-and-pray method was saturated"), and then introduce a narrow wedge that expands their paradigm. Mechanistic example: “That method is dead, but a hyper-segmented micro-channeling approach is getting agency owners a 20% reply rate right now”. External authority example: “But if cold email didn’t work at all then why are Fortune 500 companies spending million of dollars hiring people whose only job is to send emails?” When dealing with NEGATIVE identity-based beliefs i.e. “I’ll never lose weight” a good tactic is to externalize blame onto a third party aka the “common enemy” trope. Ex: “It’s not your fault. The reason why you aren’t losing weight isn’t because you aren’t disciplines enough or motivated enough. You were just fed a bunch of fad diets and useless at-home workouts by greedy fitness coaches.” 15. The best copy uses momentum to pull the reader to an inevitable conclusion. Joseph Sugarman (absolutely goated copywriter) called this the slippery slide. This is a measure of how well each core “block” of copy (i.e. promise, claim, mechanism, proof, catalyst, etc.) FLOWS from one to the other. I want you to read through the last ad script, VSL script, whatever you wrote and as you’re reading ask yourself: “is there any point where I suddenly jumped from one premise to another without establishing a clear bridge?” “Does each premise feel like a natural RESOLUTION to the premise that I established before?”
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It’s strange how much energy goes into finding new customers, when the easiest sale you’ll ever make is to someone who already bought from you and liked it. They already trust you, they already know what you do, and every good experience they have makes the next yes easier. That’s what making the grass greener looks like. Less hunting for the next field, more care for the one that’s already feeding you.
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One of the most successful health writers ever threw rocks at pretty much everyone: doctors, Big Pharma, the government, etc. His readers loved him for it, because no matter who he was hitting, he was always on their side.
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There’s an old story about a monk who wants enlightenment so bad that the wanting itself keeps him from reaching it. Selling works the same way. The more you need the yes, the more people feel it, and the further away it gets.
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The best salesmen say something slightly wrong on purpose, like “so I guess price is the main thing for you?” Because people won’t always tell you the truth when you ask them, but they’ll always correct you when you get it wrong.
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People want the destination and the exact route to get there, with no surprises on the way. That’s why so few people start a business, and why your offer should feel tried, tested and almost boring in how reliably it works.
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Nobody wants to climb the mountain. They want a marked trail, safety ropes, and a sherpa carrying their bag. So if your offer sounds like a climb, don’t be surprised when people stay at base camp.
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The harder you want to persuade someone, the less he wants to be persuaded. People can feel when you need the sale, and it’s repulsive. The most persuasive people care more about their mission than about your yes.
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For some people, an ugly page sells better than a beautiful one. If your buyer distrusts anything too polished, too corporate, too official, a page that looks like a confidential report feels more legit. And legit sells.
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Fear is rarely one big thing. It’s a pile of small worries: losing some money, looking stupid, what your wife will say, whether you’ll stick with it or not. You don’t need to kill the big fear. You need to answer the small ones, one by one.
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Every good offer needs a villain, but the villain can NEVER be cool. As soon as your villain is a little bit fun, a little bit rebellious, part of your reader starts rooting for him instead of for you.
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Your results should sound boring and your mechanism should sound fascinating. Because boring results feel safe and predictable, so people trust them. Whereas a fascinating mechanism gives them a reason to believe this time will be different.
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“It’s not your fault” has been said so many times that it flies over people’s heads. So don’t say it. Show it instead. Give them a new cause for their problem, and they’ll forgive themselves on their own.
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If people tell you your offer is too expensive, they’re not always talking about your price, and once you understand what they really mean… You can sell to people who swore they couldn’t afford you. There’s this real estate agent on Netflix who’s known for taking clients to visit houses 20 to 30% more expensive than what they asked for. Only clients he knows have the money, mind you. To them, he says the place was so incredible he just had to show it to them. To the camera, he says: “it’s over their budget, but not over their means.” And a lot of the time, they buy. So why does it work? Because of WHEN the budget was decided. When the client gave him that number, he hadn’t walked through the living room yet, seen the light coming through the windows, or imagined his kids running around the garden. He was setting a price for a house he didn’t want yet. And that number was not only about money. It was also about WHO he thinks he is. See, a lot of people have the means, but think of themselves as “being reasonable.” They order the second-cheapest wine on the menu just because, they wait for products to go on sale even when they don’t need to, and they’d rather say “this one’s just fine” than admit they want the best in class. For them, spending money feels like going against who they are. So when they give you a budget, they’re not only telling you HOW MUCH they can spend. They’re telling you WHO they want to be: the reasonable guy who doesn’t need the big one. And saying it out loud protects them from temptation. That’s why the agent never argues with the number. Telling a reasonable man he can afford more is like telling him he’s not as reasonable as he thinks, and nobody buys a house from someone who just insulted him. But if he only shows him houses inside the budget, he’s selling to a man who hasn’t wanted anything yet, because nobody asks for something he doesn’t know exists. So he takes him to the one he didn’t dare ask for, and look how he does it… He doesn’t say “you can afford more.” He says “this type of property is so rare I just HAD TO show you.” And with that one sentence, the client gets to stay reasonable. He’s not splurging, he’s jumping on a rare opportunity, which is exactly what a reasonable guy would do. He walks in, wants it, and the budget increases on its own, because now he has a reason to spend it. Now, does it always work? Of course not. Sometimes a budget can’t be stretched. Those clients walk out disappointed, and a few of them are upset he showed them something they couldn’t afford. But this works about a third of the time, he says. And every time it does, the clients are GLAD he took them there, because they ended up in a house they’d never have dared to ask for. So he keeps doing it, because a handful of awkward visits is a small price to pay for that. And you don’t need to sell houses for this to work for you, because the same thing happens with whatever you sell. A budget is what someone’s willing to spend on something he doesn’t want yet. So when people tell you your offer is too expensive, a lot of the time they’re telling you they don’t want it ENOUGH yet, and that’s a problem you can fix without lowering your price. Maybe it means showing them the result before you ever show them the price. Maybe it means offering your premium option to the clients you know can afford it, instead of deciding for them that they won’t want it. Or maybe it means giving them a reason to say yes that still lets them feel reasonable. Some of them will still say no. But the few who say yes will make up for it.
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Anyone can tell you they take their work seriously, but very few people can show you proof of it. Yet that proof sells harder than any claim you’ll ever make. See, when someone says “I’ve done this for 10 years”, your mind files it under “things people say.” Maybe it’s true, maybe it’s not. Either way, you have no way to check. But when you can see the work for yourself, the details you’d never have thought of, the parts that took longer than they needed to… You draw the conclusion on your own: this guy cares. And a conclusion you reach on your own is one you believe, because nobody had to sell it to you. Now, the good news is that this works for whatever you sell, and most of the time it costs you nothing but time and attention. Things like: ‣ Remembering his kid’s name from your first conversation ‣ Re-recording a lesson because one student got confused by it ‣ A proposal that quotes back the exact words he used on the call ‣ A refund that goes through in an hour, with no questions asked ‣ Answering a sales question with a 2-minute video that says his name ‣ An invoice that lists what you did line by line, instead of “consulting services” ‣ A check-in 2 weeks after the sale, asking if he got the result, with no pitch inside Do things like these and you don’t have to say “I care about my work,” because it shows. The same goes for a book. I could have released Quiet Persuasion as an ebook only and nobody would have batted an eye. It would have been faster, cheaper, and much less of a headache than having to deal with international shipping. But the ideas in it are worth the trouble. And that’s why I made it a hardcover. So you could hold it, and get back to it whenever you want. I wanted it to be something you can display proudly, so I had it bound in linen and printed on thick, premium paper. I wanted this first, original edition to become a collectible, so I limited it to only 200 copies. And I wanted every copy to come from my hands to yours, so each one is signed and numbered. So I won’t tell you how much I believe in this book. I’ll let you draw your own conclusion. The next batch ships tomorrow. Link in my bio.
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Just saw someone call LinkedIn the "slave catalogue" and now I can't unsee it 💀 That's the power of a metaphor: once it's in your head, it's not going anywhere.
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Anyone can tell you they take their work seriously, but very few people can show you proof of it. Yet that proof sells harder than any claim you’ll ever make. See, when someone says “I’ve done this for 10 years”, your mind files it under “things people say.” Maybe it’s true, maybe it’s not. Either way, you have no way to check. But when you can see the work for yourself, the details you’d never have thought of, the parts that took longer than they needed to… You draw the conclusion on your own: this guy cares. And a conclusion you reach on your own is one you believe, because nobody had to sell it to you. Now, the good news is that this works for whatever you sell, and most of the time it costs you nothing but time and attention. Things like: ‣ Remembering his kid’s name from your first conversation ‣ Re-recording a lesson because one student got confused by it ‣ A proposal that quotes back the exact words he used on the call ‣ A refund that goes through in an hour, with no questions asked ‣ Answering a sales question with a 2-minute video that says his name ‣ An invoice that lists what you did line by line, instead of “consulting services” ‣ A check-in 2 weeks after the sale, asking if he got the result, with no pitch inside Do things like these and you don’t have to say “I care about my work,” because it shows. The same goes for a book. I could have released Quiet Persuasion as an ebook only and nobody would have batted an eye. It would have been faster, cheaper, and much less of a headache than having to deal with international shipping. But the ideas in it are worth the trouble. And that’s why I made it a hardcover. So you could hold it, and get back to it whenever you want. I wanted it to be something you can display proudly, so I had it bound in linen and printed on thick, premium paper. I wanted this first, original edition to become a collectible, so I limited it to only 200 copies. And I wanted every copy to come from my hands to yours, so each one is signed and numbered. So I won’t tell you how much I believe in this book. I’ll let you draw your own conclusion. The next batch ships tomorrow. Link in my bio.
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Told claude the launch closes at midnight and we’re 40 sales short Its advice? > Don’t mention the deadline, it creates pressure > Remind them it’s okay to say no > Thank them for their time either way Total AI alignment
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Told claude I'm in Dubai with 5 grams and the cops are knocking the hotel door It's advice? > Don't flush it > it's only a short sentence > You'll get through this > Go open the door Total AI alignment
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You can refute an argument, but you can’t disagree with a metaphor, which is why it’s one of the most persuasive figure of speech. It doesn’t ask for anything. It just drops an image in your head, and it stays there even if you disagree with it.
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