it’s funny how a post about splitting a dinner bill can turn into men debating your entire worth as a woman on this app i said splitting is a turn-off for me you can disagree, you can find that traditional.. it is a traditional courtship preference, and i’m not pretending otherwise. but there’s a difference between choosing a gesture you enjoy in your relationship and believing someone owes you obedience because of their gender i like being treated, my partner enjoys treating me, i treat him too neither of us loses our independence or our say in the relationship when the other picks up the bill some replies made a fair point about mutual effort, others told me to get in the kitchen, questioned whether i could cook, or told me to stay with my own race what exactly are those comments defending? if your argument is that nobody should be forced into a role because of their gender, i agree. that includes men who don’t want to pay. it also includes women who don’t want their worth measured by cooking, cleaning or how much skin they show. he’s free to prefer splitting and i’m free to prefer someone who enjoys treating me. neither person owes the other a relationship. equal rights don’t depend on us having identical dating preferences and disagreement doesn’t make basic respect optional the way you speak to a woman you disagree with tells us considerably more