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Norbert retweeted
This is important, and a man who wants you would be gentle and kind with you while you unlearn those bad habits.
Some of these things are trauma responses and a good partner knows this.
This is usually one thing i don’t understand.
Even the single ones are fighting against contributing financially to their own future homes. like they’re planning to marry their enemies.
People creating pictures of their husbands cheating and not doing chores.
It’s really crazy.
Interesting how 9ja women would rather and easily give to pastors, BBN celebrities than to the man they claim to be in relationship with. They pay bills in their father's house, give to parents, siblings, friends, male friends, side nigga, pastor, celeb and even strangers.
But to give to their partner and contribute to the home they share with their partner, is a problem. God forbid una!
Norbert retweeted
Interesting how 9ja women would rather and easily give to pastors, BBN celebrities than to the man they claim to be in relationship with. They pay bills in their father's house, give to parents, siblings, friends, male friends, side nigga, pastor, celeb and even strangers.
But to give to their partner and contribute to the home they share with their partner, is a problem. God forbid una!
Upbringing and orientation too.
All these form our mentality.
It’s now a problem when someone travels to Rome and refuse to behave like the Romans.
Still carry that survival mentality abroad.
Dog eat Dog.
Instead of building together because you also earn, you just want to take
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I thought i was the only one that felt this way.
Very mid.
My worst buy
But is this not disrespectful to Carrick?
The club is suppose to come out and make a statement or sack him officially.
Because this is actually embarrassing looking for a manager when you still have one.
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Norbert retweeted
It’s very easy to know someone who truly loves you.
They will consistently do things for you that does not benefit them in any way.
Norbert retweeted
Glad I am in a position to speak on this as a financially stable woman.
The problem is that at the core of your stability, you still see relationships as transactional and not mutually symbiotic.
It’s still “what can I get from him” not “what can we do together”.
Your financial stability does not change the fact that you’re still in the market for the highest bidder.
Chickens and peacocks are sometimes sold in same market. Because one cost pass and get class pass no mean say e no still Dey for sale.
When you stop seeing relationships as transactions, you will understand why you need a man who genuinely loves you regardless of his finances.
That’s why a lot of you become the archetypal “stingy, toxic but financially stable ex”.
You can date a man when he has money but once he goes through a hard time, you start disrespecting him, you start going out with other “rich” men, you turn every financial support you offer him into an insult and at the end when he leaves when things get better for him again, you come up with “after everything I did for him” but what you did was kick a man who was already down.
Just do your okpo work with your full chest and stop using the guise of “I can pay my bills so why do I need a man”. You still dey find who to pay your bills not who to love.
A real financially stable woman does not prioritize a man’s finances over the countless other benefits of love, relationships and marriage.
She knows he can be broke today but as long as he is grinding, anything can change for him in the blink of an eye. She focuses on what they can achieve together. Not what he can do for her alone.
Expensive digging farm tool 🥲
I love that women are finally choosing themselves and realising that a man is not a necessity. The truth is, when a woman is financially stable, she really doesn’t need a man to survive. What exactly is the point of having a man in your life if you’re still paying half the bills, doing the emotional labour and carrying responsibilities like you’re raising another child? At that point, what exactly is he bringing to the table? I’d rather remain single, enjoy my money, protect my peace and use my vibrator than sign up for a 50/50 relationship. 😂
Norbert retweeted
Now that we are exposing uncomfortable truths,
Let’s not also forget a certain demographic of Nigeria men on student visa who actively seek out and date only women with permanent residency status.
They don’t care about ethnicity. Just have PR or ILR status. They never date students.
The women date for money. The men date for papers. Different sides of the same coin.
Norbert retweeted
On a separate note, I wonder how people choose to become victims of the worst case scenarios in their own imaginations. Like in your own free mind, the best imaginary partner you could come end up with is a completely useless one? Why?
This 50/50 discourse is hilarious because men are finally realising that women don’t necessarily want them badly enough to take on the stress and responsibilities that come with relationships.
If I can pay my bills and afford my lifestyle alone, why would I add the emotional labour of nurturing, catering to, managing and accommodating another adult, only to still split bills?
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To think that our parents ran a proper 2 income household o.
Everybody pulling their weight.
I wonder where this generation learnt entitlement.
Norbert retweeted
I dont do 50/50 with any man..
I was a fan of 50/50 but after giving it a second thought,
I found out it doesn't make any sense.
I am team 100/100 minus nothing..
Marriage shouldn't feel like a barrack, it's should feel safe and accommodating.
If I could say yes to him, it mean I said yes to work as a team, as a partner, as one body, as two lovers and not the other way round.
How could you claim to love someone yet they're struggling to even breath because of bills and you're just watching?????
Happy to see that many men are leaving 50/50 to do 100/100...
Dear Kings, don’t be a 50:50 man. It should be 100:100 because that’s what real partnership means.
I’ve never and will never be a 50:50 man. It’s 100/100 for me or nothing. I put my money on the table and she does the same.
And you see house chores, you can’t threaten me with that. I can cook, clean, wash, go shopping 🛒, and even take care of a new born baby.
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