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A psychology service that aims to create systems in schools & businesses to help all to face life’s challenges courageously & build a life worth living.

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We're offering to host free Speak Space events at any UK university in honour of #CharlieKirk's commitment to the free exchange of ideas. Please get in touch or share if you know of a uni group that would host Speak Space builds understanding, tolerance, & our common humanity.
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Teenagers have been led to believe what they need is to feel comfortable all the time. If they believe this then any discomfort becomes unbearable. A more inspiring belief is: I can do hard things. That's why we're: Not The Easy Way
Lots of teenagers I work with are under the misapprehension that there are all these golden people out there living golden lives. They have NO IDEA that distress is part of the human condition
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If you disagree with someone, ask questions. If you get a response, listen. If views make you uncomfortable, ask yourself why. If you start name-calling, take a breath. Don't intimidate. Don't kill. Don't celebrate their death. A good man was killed because of bigotry. RIP.
I saw this video this morning on my feed and I think it so eloquently explains what Charlie Kirk was put on this earth to do. “When people stop talking, that’s when you get violence, that is when civil war happens”
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Adolescence misses the mark. An unpopular opinion perhaps, but nonetheless the importance that politicians and broadcasters are placing on this fictional drama is, I believe, misplaced. Yes, its one-shot structure is brilliantly directed by Phillip Barantini and Stephen Graham is, as ever, a tour de force. But whilst this is a very good depiction of a family’s grief and bewilderment at how their child has become capable of such a callous and evil act, it never explains HOW Jamie has been driven to kill or WHY he sees it as a rational act. It is briefly talked about that this is a killing driven by being mocked online by the girl who becomes his victim, but that thread is left hanging. Though hinted at it never pushes as to what the influences have been to drive him there. For Keir Starmer to suggest Adolescence must be shown in all schools is a hopeless piece of political virtue-signalling, desperate to ride the coat-tails of popular opinion, illustrating that he doesn’t really want to understand the nature of the problem; What will teenagers get from watching it? The majority of boys who carry a knife do so because they believe others do, not because they are misogynist incels. The fear is of being stabbed themselves, not because they intend to attack teenage girls. There is a reason why boys make up the majority of victims, and why black boys are over represented in those statistics. Two weeks ago I led a debate in Parliament about ‘Knife crime amongst children and young people’. Perhaps if the Prime Minister felt the topic was truly important he might have made time for it to be discussed rather than the issue being forced by myself as an opposition backbencher. Until we are prepared to frankly and robustly address why our children are carrying knives, and more still why so many have become prepared to kill, we simply will not stop this senseless loss of life.
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Replying to @Keir_Starmer
With respect Prime Minister, policy should be informed by sober research, not highly emotive performance art, no matter how powerful the acting is. Here’s some incel research we conducted with support from @CommissionCE and presented to the @CommonsWEC. gov.uk/government/publicatio…
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In what sense is Adolescence a "bit too real"? There simply has not been an epidemic of manosphere inspired violence like depicted in the show (unlike something like Drill music, for example). Jamie is neither typical of knife crime in the UK, nor indeed fans of the manosphere (who are disproportionately ethnic minority also). The show depicts a somewhat plausible narrative of how a tragedy like this might unfold. But, to be clear, it would be a total outlier tragedy if it did. When I say plausible I mean that instead of depicting a cold blooded psychopathic young man, the show depicts the following... 1. A normal enough young boy who is insecure about presenting himself as sexually successful. This pressure is likely exacerbated by the manosphere content he consumes. 2. Jamie has his masculinity challenged online by being bullied about being incel. Public humiliation (made worse by social media) is a plausible trigger for young male violence. 3. Finds a knife in his possession. 4. Seeks to confront his bully (after trying to romantically pursue her when he thought she was "weak") and things got out of hand.
'My son was subjected to quite bad bullying, he had to evacuate his class...' As Adolescence becomes available to watch in secondary schools, safeguarding worker Claire tells @NickFerrariLBC that the show felt 'a bit too real'.
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Challenge yourself this holiday season: engage with someone you might not normally connect with. Find just one thing you have in common. Even if it feels like a small moment, I guarantee it plants a seed. Small, incremental steps can unravel misconceptions and spark profound change over time. Let’s build bridges, one conversation at a time.
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NotTheEasyWay retweeted
Yeah, we probably shouldn't be teaching them the mental habits of anxious & depressed people under the theory that will help inspire them save the world. It's just making them miserable & alienated.
GenZ 12th graders are more pessimistic about the world than any generation in decades. This corresponds with rates of anxiety and depression that are also through the roof.
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The only way for children (or anyone for that matter) to "feel better about yourself" is to do difficult things. If more people could understand this one thing, we would be in a far better place. Make your kids' lives less comfortable. They will be far better off for it.
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Proud of this piece. I wrote in my first book that colleges need to be recruiting folks with a scholarly mindset. The activist mindset is too self certain and is too close minded on any number of topics. thedispatch.com/article/how-…
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Therapists: if you are interested in therapy with male clients, then take a look at the BPS guidance authored by Martin Seager and John Barry cms.bps.org.uk/sites/default… You can ask them questions in their new CPD webinar on men's mental health. Details here: thecentreformalepsychology.t…
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Society is quick to highlight negative male role models. youtu.be/jTr6UCLE2LE But what about the good ones? Who is guiding boys & young men positively? We spoke to @CostelloWilliam about his friend @ChrisWillx Who else should teenage boys be directed towards?
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Great conversation... brilliantly facilitated by Peter. I think lots to unpick in terms of causal, mediator and moderating factors for certain beliefs to emerge and to have social/ peer value. Plus, how to influence through holistic support. Lots to think about
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Discussed @CostelloWilliam incel research youtu.be/jTr6UCLE2LE Incels see themselves as ineffective in romantic relationships & can be misogynistic but Do we see emotional pain in men? Do we reject men who are in pain? What does this mean for how we support teenage boys?
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What's the one lesson you wanted in school but never got? 💘 youtu.be/jTr6UCLE2LE @CostelloWilliam discusses how helping young men become better partners is a laudable goal. Without it, someone else will fill that vacuum. #TwitterEPs #MentalHealth #edutwitter
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We spoke to @CostelloWilliam about his incel research. Incels perceive themselves to be ineffective in romantic relationships & can engage in misogynistic behaviour. What can we learn from this group about male mental health? Video out Monday! buzzsprout.com/1716398/episo…
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If you are a man facing a difficult issue, such as: Feeling suicidal Mental health problems Domestic abuse Parental alienation False allegations Homelessness (including veterans) Free speech ...then you can contact one of the organisations listed here centreformalepsychology.com/…
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We need to understand the allure of #AndrewTate for young men Maybe they need role models Maybe they don’t want to be deemed toxic anymore Maybe they want someone to guide them So they answer his call for strong masculinity But he is a false god @DrCamRx @MalePsychology
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*9th October* Join our webinar about understanding issues facing boys and improving their wellbeing e.g. experience of school, social media, understanding masculinity etc. Live CPD webinar + Q&A led by two expert psychologists. Book your place here: thecentreformalepsychology.t…
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It's not enough to just point out to boys how appalling this is. We need to give them a better story. One in which they're still strong confident young men. But also young men with integrity, responsibility & virtue with something to offer the world.
Dear white men. You’re fucked. You’re being replaced because none of you have children. Even those of you bitching about the replacement online like little girls don’t find the gumption to fuck. I see white men bragging about having 5 kids as if it’s an achievement. lol. Five? Lolol. Per year right? Ohhhh. All you white boys lost control of you’re women and now they won’t accept multiple wives anymore. Now they tell you they don’t want anymore kids. Ones enough! They don’t want to do their god given job anymore no, they want instagram likes instead. So you’re genetic potential is stumped by the whims of some singular female. A female who takes 9 whole months to grow a single baby. Other races have multiple ovens for bread. We’re not cucked. Some bitch is screaming at you about loyalty and you’re sitting there saying “yes baby” Jerking off to porn when she’s asleep or maybe cheating with a sidebitch (CONDOM ON!) Oh no I couldn’t get another woman pregnant my wife would kill me!!! 😟 Total fucking losers. Soon your race will be nothing more than a few pages in a history book. A lesson on what happens when you fuck the female psyche so hard they’re obsessed with money and social media as opposed to being one of many baby factories for a king. 30 children minimum for the dons. White people? Go talk to your “best friend” wife about what to do this weekend. Maybe you can take a nice walk around Ikea. Enjoy extinction.
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