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Family Historian, proud mom of 3 kids 2 grandbabies;semi-retired social worker;Oiler Diehard, often uses swear words 😇 , living on Treaty 6 land

St., Albert, Alberta
Joined November 2009
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So yesterday was bittersweet. It was my late husband’s first heaven birthday but my daughter honoured their love by marrying the man of her dreams in a small wedding ceremony It turned a sad day into a wonderful memory of celebration ❤️❤️
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Worried that the lengthy lineups at the advance voting would be the same today and I wouldn't get to vote as I can't stand that long. In and out in less than today #Ivoted
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Today my power wheelchair hit 15,000 km. Almost every one of those kilometres had a Rottweiler beside it. Losing my legs meant relearning everything. And it was and still is, hard. Opening a door and getting through it. Getting out of bed at 3 a.m. to pee. Even getting into bed. I am eternally grateful a Rottweiler was there for all of it. Kuno, a huge dog with a massive heart, taught me how to live this life. Without him I am fairly certain I would have stayed in bed, stared at the TV, and hated the world. Instead he got me outside, and we learned how to navigate a community built when people like me were expected to live in institutions. Those kilometres were full of firsts. First grocery shop with no help. First time stuck in a couple inches of snow. First time I could not get into a business because they chose an inaccessible location. First time I trained a puppy from a wheelchair. I was painfully self-conscious those first years. The pity smiles. The awkward questions. The stranger in the grocery store who asked to lay hands on me and pray. I coped by getting better at dog training. Kuno and I put a ridiculous number of miles on together. We took classes and found mentors. I learned to drive with hand controls, then bought a used accessible van so we could travel. This wheelchair has rolled all over the prairies when we've completed in Rally Obedience trials. We played in parks in the sun. Trained in the underground parking when it snowed. We gave presentations on service dogs, accessibility, and disability at community groups, schools, and post-secondary institutions. We challenged the city on multiple issues and became the unofficial accessibility watchdog team. At Christmas we raised funds for charities. More importantly, except for a couple of brutal weather days when I had to call emergency dog-walking help, we were out in the community being active. A lot of those kilometres were spent training very specific work: backing in a perfect heel, spins, pivoting beside the chair, even pivots with the dog in front facing me. We got so good it almost became a dance. He walked beside me the first time I rolled down the sidewalk in this chair. I rolled beside him on the last steps he took before he passed away. A few years ago Chesnyy joined the household and the kilometres started adding up faster. We started working with a government-qualified service dog organization and now we teach some of their classes. Last year Chesnyy and I moved into an accessible house with my best friend, and another Rottweiler puppy arrived. There are still a lot of walks left. Winter is still highly inaccessible. After 15,000 km the challenges have shifted. Many barriers are still there and we will keep tackling them. I am more confident now. It took a lot of work, but I have proven myself in the dog training community. I still miss things I can no longer do, but I have accepted this disability and I am trying to live my best life. The bigger fight now is pain. Chronic pain is not new. It was an issue before amputation. Phantom pain no longer surprises me. My shoulders hurts tremendously from transferring and lifting from a seated position. My back aches from sitting. And yes, my butt hurts. Pain makes motivation really hard. The dogs help with that. On the days when I just want to give up, wet noses nudge me on. 15,000 km is a lot for a power chair. I got this one in the fall of 2020. Techs are always shocked at the mileage. They typically see about 5,000 km over the life of a chair. This one will probably need replacing in the next year or so. Thankfully there is some government funding but they only fund base models. Good chairs that are easier on the body and actually work well cost a lot more. A full-time power wheelchair in Canada often starts around $15,000. Add tilt to help prevent pressure sores and you can easily add another $10,000. When you live in the chair it has to be customized. One of the hardest parts of disability is the cost. I am fortunate to have a consistent disability income that covers monthly bills but I don't have extended medical insurance to get upgraded equipment. Prescriptions, physical therapy, and a lot of disability related equipment is all out of pocket. I am not asking for money. I just want people to understand that power mobility is ridiculously expensive, and that a couple of giant-hearted Rottweilers made 15,000 km possible. Today I took the chair off the pavement and did a little 4x4ing so the dogs could run off-leash on a beautiful summer day. Watching them play, I thought about every hard kilometre that got us here. That still makes my heart smile. ❤️🐾❤️ Admin
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Last week we introduced Kenji to the button that initiates a video call to an emergency contact. Because he already knows to push buttons, he only needed to learn that it was a paw push not a nose push, and the cue "FaceTime". Today he had his second training session and we moved the button into the living room where it will be used, and he immediately went and pushed it when cued. Then we started to add distance. We did a few runs from within the living room, then a few from the kitchen, and finally a few from the back porch. He did it every single time. Young dogs learn very quickly. We kept the session short and just did a few repetitions at the furthest distance. It's tempting to go further away or into a different room, but it's better to leave that for the next session. Overtraining can take the fun out of it for the dog. Yes, they need to get lots of repetitions in for a behavior to become precise and reliable, but we want to keep it enjoyable and not increase difficulty too quickly. If he's already done several repetitions from a distance and then we ask him to do it from a room further away, then we run the risk of him losing interest in the activity and becoming more interested in some of the distractions he passes along the way. Like his bone and a toy box. When training a new skill, the dog needs lots of wins. It's far better for us to end the session where we did, rather than move to the bedroom and have him decide to stop and check out his bone on his way to the button. In a day or so we will do another session with him doing it once from the living room, a couple of fast repetitions from the back porch with exciting rewards, and then increase the difficulty while he's highly motivated. The session after that we will probably hook it up and introduce the sounds that it makes. He's doing awesome at this. It's not surprising. We know that there's more in his giant noggin than just marshmallows. Even if he's still hoping that button let's him video chat with Pizza Hut. 🎥 Kenji being awesome #Rottweiler #PuppyTraining #KenjiChaos
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Edmonton & area. Sports fans. Having a garage sale Saturday August 22 - selling Oiler & sports memorabilia at 38 Dundas Place in St Albert. Come & check it out
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Watching my son pack his suitcase tonight for his army deployment Thursday morning. #mixedfeelings
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My youngest joined the army yesterday. So proud of him
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Two week check up after hip replacement- all is well just a couple of stitches to dissolve. Need to keep exercising and hopefully at 6 week mark when I go back I'll get approved to drive again
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Home from surgery and feeling good pain is more than manageable ; feel tired and worn out but I can catch up on that as there is so little pain. Thanks to all who have reached out. I'm very graceful for all the support
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Great News -my hip surgery is scheduled for July 9th. Nervous but so relieved I'll be riding of this pain
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X-HugSpecialist retweeted
Connor McDavid, YOU ARE the Ted Lindsay Award winner for the fifth time! 🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆 #NHLAwards The award is presented annually to the most outstanding player as voted by the players.
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Anyone else see the resemblance between Yasavage from the @BlueJays and Luke Grimes from the Marshalls ?
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Where is Kevin Bieska?
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Just heard my surgeon for hip replacement is going on holidays for the summer! Originally told I'd probably have operation in May. Been 2 years. Now delayed until September at the earliest. Chronic severe pain is awful
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Pray for me. I think I have squirrels in my attic. My son has heard them running thru the wall. Just what I can't afford
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X-HugSpecialist retweeted
Missing teenager from #FortSaskatchewan, AB: Xzaidence Littlechild (14 y/o) was last seen Feb. 13. RCMP believe he's in #yeg. He has black hair, brown eyes, is 5'8, 127 lbs and was wearing black joggers and a black hoodie. RT?
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X-HugSpecialist retweeted
WHAT ICU NURSES KNOW ABOUT THE LAST HOURS OF LIFE THAT FAMILIES ARE NEVER PREPARED FOR: 1. Hearing is the last sense to go. Many patients can hear everything being said in the room long after they appear unconscious. Nurses know this. Most families do not act like it. 2. The body does not shut down all at once. It withdraws blood and oxygen from the extremities first, working inward toward the heart. The cold hands and feet you notice are the body making a final decision about what to protect. 3. A sudden, unexpected improvement in energy and alertness hours before death is not a good sign. Nurses recognize it immediately. Families almost always mistake it for recovery. 4. The sound called the death rattle is not pain. It is simply the throat relaxing and losing muscle control. But no amount of medical explanation prepares a family for hearing it for the first time. 5. Most people do not die during the night. The body has a biological rhythm and many deaths occur in the early hours of morning, between 3am and 5am, when the nervous system is at its lowest. 6. Patients often wait. Nurses have watched people hold on for days until a specific person arrives, or a specific word is spoken, or permission is quietly given to let go. It happens too consistently to be coincidence. 7. The words "we did everything we could" are sometimes true and sometimes the most painful half-truth a family will ever receive without knowing it. 8. Families who are not present at the moment of death carry guilt that no counselor fully resolves. Nurses see this guilt begin forming in real time and cannot always stop it. 9. The face relaxes completely at the moment of death in a way that is impossible to describe until you have seen it. Nurses say it looks like the person finally put something down they had been carrying for a very long time. 10. Many ICU nurses privately believe that the most painful deaths are not the ones with the most physical suffering. They are the ones where the patient dies surrounded by family members who are fighting with each other. 11. The thing families almost never say, but almost always should, is simply this: it is okay to go. Those four words, spoken out loud, do something that medicine cannot explain and nurses have witnessed more times than they can count. 12. Nurses grieve too. They learn the names, the histories, the family dynamics, and the small personal details of every patient. They cry in break rooms, in parking lots, and on drives home. Then they walk back in the next morning and do it all over again, because someone has to, and they chose to be that person.
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X-HugSpecialist retweeted
Another day means another day to share that my husband needs a living kidney donor. I don’t think anyone ever sees what I post but I’ll keep sharing until we have a transplant 💙💙
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