The Former Runner-up to the Local Amateur BBQ Champion / Die Hard Dolphins Fan. #phinsup
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I hope this team is so busy getting prepared for this season, that it had no available time to put even a once of effort into this video which ranked 32 in the power rankings.
Otherwise, this is gonna be a long ass season.
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A Jewish Rabbi is equivalent to saying assless chaps.
Report: Female cop shoots Jewish rabbi outside Pornhub office in Canada while hiding from Marxist gunman who killed immigrant officer named Mohamed
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This is how a child loses trust in their parents;
- Asks a genuine question. Gets dismissed.
- Shares excitement about something. Gets mocked.
- Comes home with a problem. Gets lectured instead of heard.
- Cries. Gets told to stop being dramatic.
- Fails at something. Gets compared to someone else.
- Achieves something. Parents barely look up.
- Tries to talk. Parent is on the phone.
- Learns that home is not a safe place to be honest.
- Starts hiding things.
- No quality time. Only correction.
- No "I'm proud of you" without a condition attached.
- No listening without an agenda.
- No apology when the parent is wrong.
- No curiosity about who the child actually is.
- Child raises themselves emotionally.
- Grows up. Moves away as fast as possible.
- Calls home out of obligation, not love.
- Becomes a stranger who shares blood.
And the parent wonders why their child never opens up.
To raise a child who actually trusts you, do this;
- Put the phone down and look them in the eyes when they talk.
- Ask questions about their world without judging the answers.
- Apologize when you're wrong. They're watching everything.
- Celebrate who they are, not just what they achieve.
- Make home the safest place they know.
- Listen to understand, not to respond.
- Show up to the small moments. Those are the big ones.
- Tell them you love them without them having to earn it.
- Be the person they run to, not from.
NON-NEGOTIABLE.
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New research indicates that fathers build bonds best with their children (and craft secure attachment in them) by "destablizing the child" in a "safe environment. Fathers in the study had a unique ability to make their children laugh and therefore create more perceived safety for the child which led to stronger attachment. Mothers made children feel safe too, usually with repetition and soothing, but the laughing and playing did not make the children as attached as it did when fathers performed it.
Several things jump out from this at me:
First, a father who is relaxed enough to laugh and play indicates a safe environment. Fathers are biologically the providers of safety, so if dad is relaxed, the world must truly be safe. Children may be picking up on this.
Second, being worthy of a father's time and attention is a huge marker for kids. A father's attention may actually mean more in many cases, as we've seen in other studies. The bond with mom is equally as important, but sometimes the bond with mom is taken for granted, where the bond with dad is taken as remarkable due to perceived other demands on his time.
What this means: Dads, you've got to be playing with your kids. As silly and disruptive as possible. They need this from you. It's one of the strongest ways they can bond to you.
More about the research: psypost.org/laughter-plays-a…
Is Kleenex attempting to free your mind of masturbation by distracting you with a puzzle?
It worked and I found all 10! 🐒
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