The Big Eye

The double standards some women have in dating and marriage are getting RIDICULOUS. Apparently, preferences are acceptable only when women have them. A woman can demand a TALL man, BROAD SHOULDERS and SIX-PACK ABS, but the moment a man says he likes BIG BREASTS or a BIG ASS, he’s suddenly objectifying women. Apparently, physical preferences are a one-way street. A woman can expect a man to be FINANCIALLY STABLE, AMBITIOUS and WELL-SETTLED, but when a man wants a FEMININE woman who values family and homemaking, he’s labelled controlling and patriarchal. A woman can have a checklist for her future husband, including SALARY, HEIGHT, LOOKS and FAMILY BACKGROUND, but when a man has preferences regarding PAST RELATIONSHIPS, VALUES and LIFESTYLE, he’s suddenly insecure and misogynistic. You cannot demand standards from men while shaming them for having standards of their own. EQUALITY DOESN’T MEAN YOUR PREFERENCES MATTER MORE THAN HIS.

We talk endlessly about women’s freedom, independence and empowerment, but somehow struggle when a woman chooses modest clothing over revealing outfits. If a woman wants to wear a short skirt, sleeveless tops or whatever she likes, that’s her choice. But if she voluntarily chooses to dress modestly, why does that suddenly become controversial? Why is one choice celebrated as liberation while the other is criticised as conditioning or oppression? A woman’s confidence, character, individuality and independence aren’t defined by how much skin she chooses to show. Feminism should be about having the freedom to choose, not dictating which choices women should make. Choice is empowerment. Only when it’s the choice you personally approve of?

A woman working a 9-to-5 is considered empowered. A woman staying home to raise her children is considered oppressed. A woman choosing independence is celebrated. A woman choosing submission is mocked. Apparently, women are only empowered when they make the choices society has decided are acceptable.

What’s actually embarrassing is watching some women convince themselves they’re winning by juggling multiple men, collecting attention, and keeping their options open. Only to realize they’ve spent years entertaining men who never wanted to build anything serious with them.