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A lot of men ask what it means to live a life of integrity in a world that constantly pressures you to compromise.
To me, it comes down to one core standard: unfailingly doing the right thing: the big things, the small things, and especially the things when nobody is watching.
Over the last several years, life has tested that standard in ways I never expected. I’m a 57-year-old professional writer, Army combat medic veteran, a devout Christian, and a single father raising two young boys (14 and 12). My oldest son, Cash, is non-verbal Autistic, and being his primary caregiver has been one of the greatest honors and humbling teachers of my life.
I’ve walked through the fire of losing a 24-year marriage and leaving behind the life (and my beloved farm) that we built. But through faith, heavy lifting, and daily discipline, I came out the other side not broken, but stronger, sharper, and more grounded as a father.
I want to start using this account to share real, hard-earned lessons for men—young and old—on:
• Raising sons to be men of honor and duty
• Standing firm in your faith when the storm hits
• Rebuilding physical and spiritual strength after loss
• Leading your family courageously, even when the culture demands compliance
We don't complain. We don't make excuses. We stand up. We build.
If you're a man striving to hold the line for your family and live with quiet strength, you’re in the right place. Glad to have you here.
This advice isn't just for women over 50; men over 50 should be in the gym lifting heavy things, too. My son is going to need me strong for a long, long time. 💪🏋️♂️c
If your mother is over 50 and doesn't lift anything heavier than a bucket of water, send her this.
After menopause, women lose bone and muscle faster. Strength training is one of the best ways to slow that down.
Start simple: sit-to-stand from a chair, wall push-ups, carrying shopping bags. Twice a week.
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First place in his first year bowling without bumpers in Special Olympics (he's a freshman in HS this year)!
So proud of this boy and all of the other kiddos there today.
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Today is one of my favorite days of the year:
Special Olympics Bowling for my son! 🎳
My youngest son is playing hooky from school to come support and cheer on his older brother, too - so extra special day!
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Teaching my sons strength and gentleness at the same time is one of the hardest jobs, but I trust that God didn't hand it to the wrong man.
Keep going, brother.
Dads, don't make your sons wait their whole lives to hear it (I try to tell my sons I'm proud of them everyday).
Tell them you're proud of them today. Then thank a veteran on Wednesday (I am also a veteran!)
I post this pic every year on this date because this was the last picture I took with my Dad
I lost my Pops 6 years ago today. When my father passed I realized he was the only man that would ever tell me that he was proud of me
His favorite holiday is in a few days which is Veterans Day
Other than that, November sucks for me, but I try to make the best of it
Pop wouldn’t want me to have my head down
Miss you Pop, Happy Veterans Day!!! 🫡
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First round ever at the historic Tom Monroe DGC in Huntsville, AL.
Not only is it the oldest course in Alabama, installed in 1976, but also the 7th oldest course in the world.
Was joined by a local kid named Adam who's only been playing for a year and we had a great round and even better camaraderie..
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Strength isn't for pushing people down. It's for protecting the ones who can't protect themselves.
That's why I train. Not for the mirror, but so my boys see what a strong man is for.
#RaisingBoys #Fatherhood teapawt.net/Molnar_Politico/status…
THIS IS WHAT REAL PARENTING LOOKS LIKE! A FATHER DISCOVERS HIS SON HAS BEEN BULLYING OTHERS — AND DECIDES TO TEACH HIM A LESSON:
A father's approach to teaching his son about bullying is getting attention online, and it's sparking a conversation every parent should be having.
After learning about his son's behavior, this dad decided it was time for a lesson in respect, discipline, and accountability.
Instead of simply ignoring the problem, he put on boxing gloves and used a training session to teach his son about responsibility and the importance of treating others with respect.
HIS MESSAGE WAS SIMPLE: NO BULLIES IN MY HOUSE!
And I think that's a lesson worth teaching.
Too many young people grow up believing they can mistreat others without consequences. They think being bigger, stronger, or more intimidating gives them the right to push people around.
BUT REAL STRENGTH ISN'T ABOUT HOW MANY PEOPLE YOU CAN INTIMIDATE. IT'S ABOUT HAVING THE DISCIPLINE TO CONTROL YOURSELF.
Especially when it comes to how young men treat women.
Being physically stronger than someone doesn't give you the right to disrespect, threaten, intimidate, or hurt them.
A young man should understand that strength comes with responsibility.
Respect matters. Self-control matters. Character matters.
And those lessons should begin at home.
A FATHER'S JOB ISN'T JUST TO PROVIDE FOR HIS CHILDREN. IT'S ALSO TO PREPARE THEM TO BECOME RESPONSIBLE ADULTS.
That means teaching accountability, respect for others, and the difference between confidence and cruelty.
Of course, discipline should never become an excuse for abuse. A supervised boxing lesson should be about instruction and self-control, not hurting a child.
But the larger message here is important.
RAISE STRONG SONS. RAISE RESPECTFUL SONS. RAISE SONS WHO KNOW THAT REAL MEN DON'T NEED TO BULLY PEOPLE TO FEEL POWERFUL.
WE NEED MORE PARENTS WILLING TO TEACH THEIR CHILDREN ABOUT RESPECT, RESPONSIBILITY, AND CONSEQUENCES.
And sometimes the most valuable lessons are the ones children remember for the rest of their lives.
DO YOU THINK THIS FATHER HANDLED THE SITUATION THE RIGHT WAY?
LET ME KNOW IN THE COMMENTS!
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"When being just and honest comes at a price, pay it."
Starting over at 58 taught me that. The right thing doesn't always feel good in the moment, but my boys are watching, and peace with God beats winning every time.
#Integrity #Fatherhood teapawt.net/Pontifex/status/211922…
When being just and honest comes at a price, pay it. When forgiving seems like a defeat, forgive. When everyone tells you to think of yourselves first, do not be afraid to put yourselves in the last place. Be willing to give up time, money, comfort and plans to serve others. May those who see you find themselves asking: “Why do they live in this way? Where do they get this freedom? Why do they love one another so much?” #ApostolicJourney #Uruguay
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Just realized I've been mindlessly just sitting in my car in the garage for the last 30 minutes since dropping the boys off at their mom's house.
(Don't worry, it's a Tesla)
It wasn't even a conscious decision to just sit out here...and yet...
Coming home to an empty house after dropping my kids off never gets easier.
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Two boys knew where to go when they were scared. Someone in their life had made prayer - and asking for help - feel safe.
As a single dad raising two sons, that's what I want: boys who know they can come to me, and a father who'll stop and pray with them.
#Fatherhood #RaisingBoys teapawt.net/HumanityChad/status/21…
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Sure, a Godly mentor is a gift.
But a present father has a responsibility he can't outsource to the pastor. My boys need me living the faith at home, not just finding someone else to teach it. ✝️🙏
Everything he says x 10!
I love my Tesla more than any other vehicle I've ever owned, mostly for FSD and the freedom it has given me.
Since day one of owning my Tessa I proclaimed that I would never own anything but one.
And I thought for sure my next Tesla would be a cybertruck.
But now I'm not so sure of the direction that Elon is going, either.
I bought my first Tesla in September 2018. Purely because of autopilot. It allowed me to supercommute 150 miles a day after a night shift and not have to worry about falling asleep and running off the road.
I bought FSD in 2019 after experiencing autopilot and being blown away. FSD was a natural extension of autopilot that would allow me the freedom to sit back and recapture all my time on the road.
I bring up freedom because I feel like I've always seen Teslas as the best EV for hitting the road, never having to worry about charging, and letting the car do most of the driving. I drove other EVs before Tesla, but Teslas at that point (and still are) in a league of their own.
As our family got bigger, we moved up to Model Ys, then eventually decided we wanted something even bigger and more useful. In came the Cybertruck. The same great Tesla package of easy charging, ease of use, the added utility of a pickup truck, and that same great self driving.
I think that the Cybertruck's impending sunset hit home because after the Model S, X, and now the Cybertruck, it really hits home that Tesla doesn't seem to want to continue innovating in the customer car segment.
I get the benefits of autonomous driving (we have two Teslas with FSD purchased!) and it changed from being a party trick in the early years to an absolute requirement in any car - my wife will not let me buy a new car that doesn't drive itself! We use it every. single. day. in both of our Teslas. It's made roadtrips a breeze. Commutes no longer are stressful.
But what I don't understand through all of this is the absolute notion from Tesla that we need to delete the steering wheel, the pedals, the ownership, the freedom of having a vehicle.
With a young child, non-consumer owned vehicles like Robotaxi are a non-starter for us. We'd be taking car seats in and out at every stop. Waiting for a ride to show up with an inpatient kid crying next to us. We go camping, drive off the beaten path, and need the ability to drive manually at some points. And we absolutely need to own a vehicle so that we're not at the whim of waiting for a robotaxi to show up.
I also see Tesla as being one of the few companies that allowed us to take almost all of our energy consumption and vertically integrate it ourselves. Become completely energy independent. We make the electricity on our roof, it powers our house, it charges our cars, and fills our Powerwalls and Cybertruck so we can both save money and protect ourselves from outages. Their product lines as a whole have allowed us a freedom no other company has given us. And they all work perfectly together.
I can't fathom a future where we don't own our own vehicle. And it's hard to fathom us not driving Teslas either. It just doesn't make sense. Vehicles since they were invented were a symbol of personal freedom and being able to hit the road and go on your own adventure. Tesla's products let us do that. And kept us safe on the road and at home.
Watching the decisions Tesla is making recently has just left me puzzled as a consumer. We went from having lots of choices in vehicles. To those being whittled down. And now being force fed the notion we'll subscribe to a vehicle, and won't own that freedom.
I'm all for autonomous driving, don't get me wrong. I just want it on my own terms. I hope Tesla reverses course as of late. I think that's whats been the hardest - seeing what could have been enabled by their products to seeing that all being taken away and being offered yet another subscription. I get their path has changed, but I want to see Tesla change back to being the consumer focused company they once were.
Let us have a choice - let's all enjoy that abundance they've shown us we can have.
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Today has been a great day - at the gym when the doors open at 6:00 then played a speed round of disc golf with a single disc, and back home before my boys woke up.
Watched my Longhorns beat Missouri and enjoying time with my boys.
I hope you have had a great Saturday, also.
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My father used to play with my brother and me in the yard. Mother would come out and say, "You’re tearing up the grass." "We’re not raising grass," Dad would reply. "We’re raising sons." – Harmon Killebrew
A yard can recover. A missed childhood can't. Brothers, make time for your boys while they still ask you to play.
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A man can show up at work, hit the gym, and still be struggling. Check on your brothers. Give them room to answer honestly, not just say "I'm good."
I've been guilty of just answering "I'm fine" when I was anything but...
I think we men pretend we're okay because we've been conditioned to believe that we're supposed to have everything figured out. We're expected to be strong, provide solutions, take responsibility and keep pushing, even when we're barely holding ourselves together.
Sometimes, we don't talk because we don't want to look weak. Sometimes, we don't even know how to put what we're going through into words. And sometimes, we've learned to deal with things silently because we feel nobody would really understand.
But the truth is, we're human too. We get tired, we overthink, we feel lonely, we need reassurance, we need someone to check up on us, and sometimes, we just need a safe space to let it all out without being judged.
Shout-out to every guy silently fighting battles, showing up for others while struggling within. I hope life gets softer for us. We deserve love, care, reassurance and genuine support too. ❤️
I'm the dad of a profoundly autistic son. Naming his needs doesn't diminish his worth; it helps explain the support he'll need for the rest of his life.
I’ve had a few people tell me off recently for my use of language. They say, there is no such thing as severe or profound autism. There is only autism, and then co-occurring disabilities such as intellectual disabilities. Autism itself can’t be severe.
I used to agree with this, but I’ve changed my mind. My mind has been changed by talking to many families of children who are (they would say) severely or profoundly autistic. They say that they clearly see in their children how autistic features like lack of early shared attention, or lack of social interest in babyhood, have led to their severe disabilities now. They say that their learning disabilities are part of their autism, not something separate to them.
And I also reflected on my own experience as a diagnostician and clinician, which also clearly shows that what we define as autism can certainly vary in severity. Just think about repetitive behaviour and restricted interests - this can range from a passionate engagement with horses or trains, to severe self-injurious head-banging. Both could fit that diagnostic criteria, but one clearly has a more serious impact on a person, and is more disabling. It makes no sense to say they are of the same magnitude.
So that’s why I will use severely or profoundly autistic when it is appropriate to do so. Because I have listened to the people most affected by this, and they have told me that it’s important to them that the language reflects their experience.
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Then Jesus said to his disciples, "Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me."
~ Matthew 16:24
We all have a cross to carry.
What is the cross that you are carrying today? 🙏✝️
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Yes, I still believe in God.
Divorce. A quiet house. Weeks apart from my boys. My faith wasn't untouched by any of it. But God met me on that back porch, Bible open, when I didn't know how to move forward.
I'm still rebuilding. He's still faithful.
#Faith #AnsweredPrayer teapawt.net/barkmeta/status/211807…
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