Mogaji Remi Ade-Eyitayo Rodney

Dear Young Man, Under normal circumstances, never assume that your wife's family can possibly love you more than your own family. This recent trend of newly successful men demonising their own families while adopting their wives' as substitutes is a disease that must encounter a vaccine, and soonest. It makes absolutely no sense. A young man emerges into fortune, builds a home, accommodates his wife's mother, her siblings, and perhaps even finds a confidant in her father, yet almost entirely abandons his own family. And somehow, there is always a justification for it. An emotional biography carefully assembled to rationalise the weakness of men. Suddenly, every husband's family is evil, cruel, toxic and inhabited by demons that must be cast out, while every wife's family is made up of angels and saints deserving of adoration and canonisation. Really? Of course, there are genuinely terrible families, and marriage does not require you to tolerate abuse or endure toxicity in the name of blood relations. But when a man must systematically vilify his own family to prove his loyalty to his wife's, perhaps the problem deserves a more honest interrogation. Marriage is not a funeral for your family ties, and success should not become the burial ground of your roots. Learn to establish healthy boundaries, protect your peace, honour your wife and respect her family. But do not allow the emotional politics of marriage to turn you into a stranger to the people who knew you before fortune gave you a new identity. Blood is not always thicker than water, I agree. But neither should marriage become an excuse to rewrite history, manufacture villains and canonise an entire family simply because you have found a new home. Wisdom is knowing how to build a new family without needlessly destroying the old one. Good Morning Severally...