Room To Thrive

I was accused of killing Jesus when I was only 7 years old. I still remember the guilt, the shame, the confusion. How was it that my benign childhood behavior was implicated in the murder of an adult I had never met?

When it comes to #ReligiousTrauma, being spiritual is not a substitute for being safe. In fact, spirituality without safety often functions as a form of dissociation.

It's encouraging to see #ReligiousTrauma getting more attention. Shout out to all those who contributed to this piece including @lauraeanderson, @brchastain, @C_Stroop, and @religioustrauma, @RFRorg, @SecularTherapy #Exvangelical newrepublic.com/article/1617…

Unity is not a virtue in a society that does not value your humanity. roomtothrive.com/blog/unity-…

When the very fabric of our society is built on and fueled by unresolved trauma, it’s important to remember that elections don’t resolve trauma. roomtothrive.com/blog/electi…

😭 It’s okay to collapse in grief. 😡 It’s okay to rage against injustice. 😧 It’s okay to be immobilized by loss. ✊ It’s okay to mobilize for a cause. #Trauma #Grief #Loss #RBG #RoomToThrive

It's not about the hypocrisy, it's about the power & control. It's about abuse. Focusing on hypocrisy is a distraction from the more insidious power & control dynamics under the surface. #ReligiousTrauma #ReligiousAbuse #Falwell

Powerful religious leaders grooming and exploiting those with disproportionately less power is not a sex scandal, it's not an affair, it's not kink, it's not sex positivity, it's not even about sex — it's about power and control and it's abuse. Why is this distinction important?

If you’ve experienced trauma and feel stuck, please don’t mistake stuck for broken. How can I say this without sounding like I’m trying to silver-line your experience? Trauma is brutal. None of us would choose a situation where our body had no choice but to freeze/collapse.

You've seen some version of this meme making its rounds on the internet. "Your grandparents were asked to fight in world wars. You are being asked to sit on the couch and watch Netflix." Is this a helpful comparison? [a thread] #Trauma

Post-traumatic Growth— One day you’ll sit in that old familiar place but no longer with shame staring down at the floor. [a thread] #ReligiousTrauma #Trauma

I’ve made peace with my mortality — not in a fatalistic sense, and I’d love to live long enough to meet my grandkids. It’s just that I’m okay with life having an expiration date. (a thread)

Dear trauma survivor, your survival response is not a moral failing. #Trauma #PTSD #CPTSD #ReligiousTrauma A thread...

A few months ago, I responded to the popular meme "Trauma is not your fault, but healing is your responsibility" The FB post has reached over 2 million folks and was republished by @TheMightySite and @yahoolifestyle. I finally added it to my blog. roomtothrive.com/blog/2020/3…