Kinesiologist, Pilates Teacher and Personal Trainer. Helping people find purpose, practice and perspective within their health & wellness.
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Brutally Honest Reminders From Seneca:
1. Stop putting things off
2. Most suffering is self-inflicted
3. Seek out challenges
4. Stop acting like you’re going to live forever
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The hallmark of an open mind is refusing to let your ideas become your identity.
If you define yourself by your opinions, questioning them is a threat to your integrity.
If you see yourself as a curious person or a lifelong learner, changing your mind is a moment of growth.
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The best cure for loneliness is not more frequent interaction. It's more meaningful interaction.
Many people enjoy solitude. They can spend up to ~75% of their time alone without feeling isolated.
What matters most for well-being is the quality of connections, not the quantity.
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Comparison is not the thief of joy. Envy is.
Resenting others' success breeds misery and rivalry. Admiring their success brings motivation and learning.
We all compare ourselves to others. A key to growth and happiness is focusing our comparisons on people who inspire us.
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Self-acceptance shouldn’t stand in the way of self-improvement.
Self-acceptance is refusing to be ashamed of your weaknesses. Self-improvement is striving to overcome your weaknesses.
Recognizing that you’re good enough today doesn’t prevent you from getting better tomorrow.
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Three questions determine 99% of the happiness in your life:
1. What am I working on and why?
2. Who am I spending time with and why?
3. How well am I treating my body and why?
Everything else is noise.
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“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”
– Rumi
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Psychological principle: There is no perfect anything-- perfect mental health, perfect economic situation, perfect secure attachment, perfect life, perfect happiness, etc. To be human is to struggle and everything has trade-offs. You may think others have it better than you, but they are just living a different life with a different set of trade-offs.
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So many young people today are suffering from mental illness. It's heartbreaking. However, I think society is making it worse by teaching young people that they should avoid any uncomfortable experiences or ideas, that the world is to blame for all their problems, and that if they don't have a clear and unique identity they can't possibly belong anywhere.
In essence, society is teaching young people to be helpless, and what's worse, that being helpless is the *only way to succeed*.
If we actually applied what we know about what it takes to have psychological resiliency, emotion regulation, and hope, our teachings to young people would be very different, and they would feel much more empowered.
This is how I strive to help young people. I believe in young people. Society does not.
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Fully agreed. I call this approach #starmanning. If you’re interested:
centerforinquiry.org/blog/ho…
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No matter how high you climb or how much you earn, if you aren't proud of how you got there, you haven't succeeded.
Status is a reward for the result. Character is revealed by the process.
The most meaningful accomplishments lie on the path that aligns with your principles.
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Too many people spend their lives being dutiful descendants instead of good ancestors.
The responsibility of each generation is not to please their predecessors. It's to improve things for their offspring.
It's more important to make your children proud than your parents proud.
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Being a critical thinker is about more than challenging other people's assumptions. It also requires you to rethink your own views.
The top 22 ideas about life, work, and well-being that you enjoyed rethinking with me in 2022...
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Good character is not about maximizing virtues but moderating them: to have high standards but low expectations, to be sensitive without being fragile, confident without being cocky, steadfast without being stubborn, driven without being reckless, focused without being obsessed.
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I heard @hubermanlab say on a podcast how he regularly stops himself from doing trivial things - like picking up a paper clip or fidgeting with a pen in a meeting.
Why does he do that? Why does it matter?
(Surprise, surprise: it has something to do with our brains 🧠)
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Addiction is a progressive narrowing
of the things that bring you pleasure.
Happiness is a progressive expansion of the things that bring you pleasure. The former emerges passively.
The latter takes work.
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Resist the easy dopamine hit. Put effort, whether hard thinking or hard physical effort or both, in front of all rewards. You can still enjoy the small things & should. But that’s a different neurochemical system.
Zero cost tool kit that goes deeper: hubermanlab.com/tools-to-man…
