Scott Powers | Men Save Your Marriage

5 Relationship Skills You Must Develop to Avoid Divorce For most couples, the relationship skills they came in with are the same skills they have now. This hinders any opportunity to grow, and if you’re not growing you are dying. These are 5 skills that ever couple should work on, and what they should be teaching in marriage counseling….

Happy Thanksgiving!

My High School Senior on his first day. In my head he is still the little boy I use to carry around everywhere. Time is a thief.

Appreciating these three that have given me the gift being their Dad. Happy Father’s Day!

The true currency of this world is relationships and how you treat people.

Proud of my boy for graduating this weekend from Colorado State. My father didn’t live long enough to see my graduation, so as a dad this meant the world to me.

You don’t earn love… You allow for it.

Your relationships change when you take responsibility for how you feel at all times. Change: “you make me feel…” To: “I make myself feel…” And see how that empowers you.

One of our relationship agreements is we always present a united front. Differences are hashed out behind closed doors and we never put each other in the spot in front of others. Agreements are the standards for how couples operate, which are often more powerful than vows.

You can’t go solving problems of the heart while stuck in your head. Sometimes men need a little less logic and a little more feeling.

Sunday vibes… I find if I don’t take time for myself, I get burned out taking care of everyone else. An hour reading in peace or going for a walk/run usually does the trick. Having time where I don’t have an agenda puts my mind at easy. Wishing everyone a fruitful week ahead.

Most dysfunction in a relationship is because of survival skills dressed up as relationship skills.

Got to spend some quality time with my high schooler since he had a day off from practice. Enjoyed a great night together watching #UCIbaseball.

It’s easy to get lost in the mundane routine of life. As much as your wife needs safety and security, she needs adventure and fun. Otherwise life starts feeling more surviving than living. To be candid, this is not my forte. Planning adventures it doesn’t come natural to me. But getting out of my comfort zone is worth her joy. I encourage you to do the same.

It’s important to remember that most communication issues are really issues of connection, just disguised as communication problems. At the beginning of your relationship, when you felt connected to each other, communication probably felt easy. The key is finding ways to go back to that. -Do things together that are fun - Try something new or have an adventure together. - commit to 10-15 minutes a day of holding each other/being affectionate. - Stop focusing on the right words, focus on how you want to feel instead and the words will flow easier.

Living in a constant state of appreciation for each is what makes love last.

Two people avoiding each other’s triggers end up being two people walking on eggshells around each other. This will always lead to resentment. Growth is learning how to honor each other while at the same time not be responsible for all of their emotions.

Are you willing to give that which you want to receive?

When patience slips, and words come out wrong, I invite to ask you spouse if you can have a REDO. By requesting a REDO it gives you the opportunity to do the interaction again with more skill and greater patience. Every time we interact in a new way we create new neural pathways. The more we lean into this, the more we create real change.