Self Love After Abuse

You are not responsible for managing another adult’s emotions or behaviour. You can care about their feelings without sacrificing your own well being to keep the peace. Their emotions are theirs to manage, its not yours to manage. #SelfLoveAfterAbuse #EmotionalAbuse

If any of what I am talking about sounds familiar please know: love bombing isn’t love. 👉 Ready to heal? Book your free consultation comment FREE and I will send you the link #LoveBombing #CoerciveControl #NarcissisticAbuseRecovery #SelfLoveAfterAbuse

You don't need their apology to close the chapter. You just need to know you deserved better. 👉 Ready to heal? Book your free consultation — comment FREE and I will send you the link. #Closure #NarcissisticAbuseRecovery #LifeAfterAbuse #YouDeserveBetter #SelfLoveAfterAbuse

If you're tempted to say maybe, say no. During my marriage, "maybe" was the safest answer I had. Not long after I left, I realised I was still saying it to everything, including things I didn't want. Learning to say a clear no gave me back my life.

During my marriage, I rehearsed every "no" in my head, softening it and over-explaining it. It never mattered how I said it. Years later I realised the boundary itself was the "problem" to him, & that told me everything 👉 Ready to heal? Book your free consultation comment FREE

Today's my birthday, and I'm over 10 years free from abuse. 🎂 How did the abusive person in your life ruin special days?

Love bombing isn't love arriving early. It's control arriving in disguise. If the start of your relationship felt like a whirlwind and the rest felt like a storm, you're not imagining it. 👉 Book your free consultation comment FREE #SelfLoveAfterAbuse

To a narcissist, people aren't people. They're pieces to move around the board. 👉 Going through family court? Comment COURT and I will send you details of how I can support you. #FamilyCourtSupport #McKenzieFriend #SelfLoveAfterAbuse #SAFEMethod

A narcissist doesn't argue to resolve anything. Your reaction is what they're after. 👉 Ready to heal? Book your free consultation — comment FREE and I will send you the link. #NarcissisticAbuseRecovery #EmotionalAbuse

Endless texts can be a form of control. Constant messages, demands for responses and repeated arguments can keep you emotionally engaged and make it difficult to step away You don’t have to respond just because someone keeps contacting you.

"Sit with your emotions" gets said a lot online, but nobody explains how. It's not staying busy, and it's not self-criticism. It's noticing what's there and asking: why did that come up? Curiosity, not criticism. 👉 Comment FREE for a free consult

Emotional abuse can be incredibly difficult to recognise because it often happens gradually. 👉 Ready to heal? Book your free consultation comment FREE and I will send you the link #SelfLoveAfterAbuse #EmotionalAbuse

Have you experienced this?⁠ 💜 If you are struggling with issues associated with narcissistic abuse and feel you may benefit from narcissistic abuse recovery coaching, please send me a message. #SelfLoveAfterAbuse #NarcissistAbuse #DomesticAbuse

A narcissist wants you to be dependent on them because that is what fuels them and makes them feel needed, superior and important. 👉 Ready to heal? Book your free consultation comment FREE and I will send you the link #SelfLoveAfterAbuse #NarcissistAbuseRecovery

Toxic hope is when you keep believing an abusive partner will change, despite repeated evidence that they won’t. That hope can keep you stuck and stop you from facing the reality of what’s happening. 👉 Ready to heal? Book your free consultation comment FREE

Have you experienced this?⁠ ⁠Narcissists are very strategic in how they manipulate you; they know what they are doing, and they use tactics. 👉 Ready to heal? Book your free consultation comment FREE and I will send you the link

Emotional blackmail is manipulating someone's feelings to control their behavior by inducing guilt, fear, or obligation to comply. Have you experienced this? 👉 Ready to heal? comment FREE and I will send you the link #NarcissistAbuseRecovery #EmotionalBlackmail

My ex accused me of having sex with every man who happened to be around, one time he said "I know you are having sex with our neighbour" He was 70! It turned out that this was projection, as my ex was having sex with anyone he could get his hands on!! What about you?

Abuse doesn’t just hurt you in the moment. Repeated criticism, put-downs and sabotage can teach you to associate your strengths, achievements and even happy memories with pain Healing is learning to reclaim the parts of yourself they tried to make you doubt #NarcissisticAbuse