TJsDad

This page, and related accounts on other platforms, are not owned or operated by Kevin Cullen, father of TJ (Tomu). Kevin holds no ownership of this account or of any related accounts. These pages are run by an independent group of volunteers who know him and who share the same concern. Some members of this group have been in contact with Kevin in the past. He has no involvement in these posts or in the content of these accounts, and he does not instruct us to publish them. Posts are written and managed by this volunteer group. Kevin does not write them and does not run these accounts. Kevin’s situation is one of many that need public awareness. Our purpose is to speak for parents facing parental alienation and difficult custody and visitation cases, especially those that cross Japan and the United States. We will continue this work. Members are based around the world, primarily in the United States and Japan. If you support this, please keep sharing Kevin’s case, and cases like it, around the world. Please also keep reaching out to parents in similar situations. We ask for support of fair and healthy custody arrangements that put the child first, not the conflict between parents. #ParentalAlienation #ChildCustody #JapanUS #SharedParenting

Dear TJ, Happy 9th Birthday, my son. 🎂💙 Today, you are nine years old, and I hope you know just how incredibly loved you are. I may not be able to be beside you to celebrate your birthday the way I wish I could, but that will never change how much I love you or how often I think about you. Every birthday is another reminder of how quickly you’re growing and how many moments I wish I could share with you. I hope this year brings you laughter, adventure, new things to discover, and countless reasons to smile. Keep being curious, keep being kind, and always remember that you have a dad who loves you more than words can ever explain. One day, I hope we can look back at these birthdays together and make up for all the moments we missed. Until then, Happy 9th Birthday, TJ. 🎈 I love you, my son. Always. ❤️ Dad #Happy9thBirthday #HappyBirthdayTJ #TJ #BirthdayBoy #Fatherhood #FathersLove #DadLove #MySon #ProudDad #FamilyLove #AlwaysLoved #AlwaysThinkingOfYou #Parenthood #Childhood #Family

A few days from now, my son will celebrate another birthday. I find myself thinking about him even more than usual. I hope he knows that wherever he is, he is surrounded by love. I know his mom cares for him deeply, and I’m eternally grateful that he has someone there to look after him, guide him, and celebrate all the little moments that make him who he is. As TJ’s dad, I’m always thinking of him and wishing him happiness, good health, and, with every milestone and every year that passes, a life filled with wonder, joy, and possibility. Even from a distance, I’m wishing him a beautiful year ahead and hoping that each new year brings him countless reasons to smile. A father doesn’t stop loving his child simply because he can’t be there for every milestone. 💙 #HappyBirthdayTJ #TJ #Fatherhood #FathersLove #DadLove #FamilyLove #ProudDad #AlwaysThinkingOfYou #AlwaysLoved #BirthdayBoy #Parenthood #Family

One of the hardest parts of being separated from your child is knowing they may not hear your side of the story for many years. I can't control what they're told. I can't control whether my messages reach them. But I can control the kind of father I choose to be. These are some of the things I do, hoping that one day TJ will know I never stopped trying... • I keep writing to him, even if he can't read my words today. • I save birthday and holiday messages every year, so he'll know I never forgot a single milestone. • I keep photos and memories alive, because our time together matters. • I continue learning, growing, and becoming a better father, even from a distance. • I speak about him with love, never with bitterness. • I advocate for children having meaningful relationships with both parents, because no child should have to choose between love. • I keep the door open. If TJ ever reaches out, he'll never have to wonder whether he's welcome. Most importantly... I never give up hope. One day, my son may ask questions only time can answer. If that day comes, I want him to see that throughout every year we were apart, my love never disappeared. Distance doesn't end parenthood. Love doesn't expire. And a father's heart never stops waiting. #Fatherhood #parentalalienation #FamilyLove #NeverGiveUp #TJ #ChildrensRights #Hope #FamilyMatters #FathersMatter #AlwaysHere

This week, discussions about family law, shared parenting, and children's rights continue around the world. No matter what country we live in, one truth remains the same: Children deserve love from both parents. This isn't about winning. It isn't about adults choosing sides. It isn't about the past. It's about children. A child should never have to lose a loving parent simply because a relationship between adults ended. A child should never grow up wondering why one parent disappeared. And a parent should never be treated as optional when they are ready, willing, and eager to be part of their child's life. The strongest family law systems are built around one question: "What is best for the child?" For most children, that answer includes meaningful relationships with both parents whenever it is safe and possible. Progress begins when we stop viewing parenting as a privilege and start recognizing it as a child's right. Children deserve both roots and wings. Both parents help provide them. #ChildRights #SharedParenting #FamilyLaw #JointCustody #ParentalAlienation #FamilyJustice #Japan #TJ #ChildrenFirst #FamilyReform

The rainy season has arrived in Japan. The streets grow quieter. The sky hangs low. Raindrops gather on windows, umbrellas bloom across the city, and families hurry home together through the evening rain. This time of year always makes me think of TJ. I wonder how much taller he is now. Whether he still likes jumping in puddles. Whether he laughs when thunder rolls across the sky. When I was younger, rain always felt temporary. You wait, and eventually the sun returns. Being separated from your child feels different. The seasons keep changing, but the waiting never leaves. Still, every year the hydrangeas bloom. Every year the rain comes. Every year I carry the same hope. Maybe one day we'll walk together beneath a shared umbrella. Maybe one day we'll watch the rain from the same window and laugh about how long the storm lasted. Until then, I hold onto the memories I have and the future I still believe in. No amount of distance can change that you are my son. And no amount of time can change that I love you. #RainySeason #Tsuyu #Fatherhood #FamilyLove #MissingMySon #TJ #ParentalAlienation #NeverGiveUp #Hope #FamilyMatters #Japan

This is one of my favourite photos of TJ and me. When this picture was taken, I wasn't thinking about court cases, parental alienation, or years of separation. I was simply a father holding his baby boy. Like every father, I spent a lot of time wondering about the future. What would make him laugh? What hobbies would he enjoy? What kind of person would he become? I imagined being there for all of it. The first day of school. After-school activities. Weekend adventures. Helping with homework. Teaching him how to drive. Sharing life lessons. The countless ordinary moments that build a father-son bond over a lifetime. I never imagined that one day I would be forced to watch so much of that from a distance. But this photo reminds me of something important. A father's love does not disappear because of distance. It does not disappear because of time. And it does not disappear because life becomes difficult. To every father who is separated from a child he loves: Don't give up. Keep showing up in whatever ways you can. Keep fighting for your child. Keep supporting them. Keep loving them. One day, your child will be old enough to ask questions and form their own understanding. They will see who cared. They will see who stayed committed. They will see who never stopped trying. At the end of the day, our children are what matter most. TJ, I may have missed years that I can never get back, but I will never stop being your father. And I will never stop hoping for the day we can make new memories together. #ParentalAlienation #ChildrenNeedBothParents #Fatherhood #FatherAndSon #ParentChildBond #MissingMySon #FamilySeparation #NeverGiveUp

June has always felt like a month of anticipation. In Japan, the rainy season arrives. Hydrangeas begin to bloom. Schools settle into their routines. Families start looking ahead to summer vacations, festivals, and all the memories still waiting to be made. Growing up in America, June often felt like the beginning of summer. School was ending. Pools were opening. Families were planning road trips and vacations. In Japan, June feels a little different. Summer hasn't arrived yet, but you can feel it getting closer. Parents start thinking about summer festivals. Weekend outings, School events, Family trips... The things they want to experience together before another year passes by. As a parent, those are the things I think about too. What hobbies would TJ be interested in now? Would he want to visit an aquarium? Go to a baseball game? Spend an afternoon catching insects in the park? What new memories would we be planning together this summer? June is a reminder that childhood never stands still. Every season brings new interests, new experiences, and new opportunities to grow. My hope is that one day I'll be able to share those experiences with TJ instead of wondering about them from a distance. Until then, I'll keep looking forward to the future and working toward the day when we can make those memories together. #ParentalAlienation #FatherAndSon #ChildrenNeedBothParents #Japan #HydrangeaSeason #FamilyTime #MissingMySon

Somewhere in another life, the morning begins before sunrise. I hear small footsteps across the floor. A sleepy voice asking for five more minutes. Backpacks by the door. Breakfast still too hot to eat. “Come on TJ, we’re going to be late.” The drive to school filled with music, random questions, and little conversations that mean everything. At the school gate, I watch him run ahead, then turn around one last time just to make sure I’m still there. Afternoons are after school activities, summer air, cheering from the side-lines, and stopping by the convenience store on the way home. Evenings are dinner together, stories about the day, homework complaints, cartoons in the background, and laughing over small things. Then bedtime. One last hug before sleep. Nothing perfect. Nothing extraordinary. Just a father and son growing through life together one ordinary day at a time. This is how I imagine my life with TJ. Not a fantasy. Not something impossible. Just the simple everyday life that should have been, and still could be, if I were allowed to be his father in the ways that truly matter. I still hold onto hope that one day, these ordinary moments will become our real life again. #ParentalAlienation #ChildrenNeedBothParents #MissingMySon #FatherAndSon #ParentChildBond #JapanFamilyCourt #FamilySeparation #InternationalParents #Japan

Yuka,🌷 Mother’s Day has just passed, and I wanted to take a moment to acknowledge everything you do for TJ. Thank you for caring for him each day. Thank you for helping him through the routines of childhood, supporting his growth, and being there for the countless ordinary moments that shape who he is becoming. Thank you for protecting him, guiding him, and giving him the love and attention every child needs. I know parenting is not easy. It requires patience, sacrifice, and constant dedication. TJ is growing into a bright and wonderful boy, and that reflects the effort and care you put into raising him. As parents, we may have our differences, but one thing I believe we both share is a deep love for our son and a desire to see him safe, healthy, and happy. I hope that, in time, we can set aside our differences and work together so TJ can benefit from the love and support of both of his parents. Childhood passes quickly. The more love, encouragement, and stability we can provide him, the stronger his foundation will be. Thank you for everything you do for TJ. And happy belated Mother’s Day. #MothersDay #ThankYouMom #ChildFirst #CoParenting #ParentChildBond #FamilyLove #ForTheChildren #InternationalFamily #FamilySupport #AlwaysYourParent

What Keeps a Child Safe? I've been thinking about this question a lot recently. With news of various incidents across the world, and ever growing global tensions, from the viewpoint of a parent, I can't help but feel worried for my child's safety. Recent data in Japan shows increasing concern around children’s safety. With rising reports of bullying and school-related stress, record levels of child abuse cases handled by authorities and around 530 child suicides recorded in 2025. It seems my fears are not unfounded. These are not isolated issues. They reflect the environments children are growing up in. Safety for a child is not only physical. It is also feeling supported, feeling heard, and knowing there is someone consistently there for them. Research continues to show that strong parental presence plays a key role in a child’s sense of security and long-term development. Protection is not only about preventing harm. It is about building a foundation where a child feels safe enough to grow. Every child deserves that. And I hope from the bottom of my heart, that parents who are separated will put their differences aside and work together for their child's best interests. Because if we cannot be their "safe space" in this world, then where can they turn to in times of need. #ChildSafety #ProtectOurChildren #ParentChildBond #ChildFirst #FamilySupport #ParentingMatters #SafeEnvironment #Fatherhood #ForTheChildren #AlwaysYourParent

Current data in Japan shows: • ~1 in 3 children lose contact with a non-residential parent • ~30% of non-custodial fathers maintain consistent involvement • Parenting outcomes have historically been uneven Research consistently shows that children benefit from having both parents involved, when safe and appropriate. The key question is not legal structure alone. It is what supports a child’s development, stability, and sense of identity. That should remain the focus. #ChildFirst #CoParenting #ParentChildBond #FamilyMatters #Fatherhood #InternationalFamily #ParentingMatters #FamilyConnection #ForTheChildren #AlwaysYourParent

It's Sakura Season 🌸 This time of year always makes me stop and think. The past months have not been easy. There have been challenges, uncertainty, and moments where things felt out of my control. But even through that, one thing has remained constant. I have not given up. I continue to move forward, step by step, holding onto what matters most. As the sakura begin to bloom across Japan, it is a reminder that change comes, even after difficult seasons 🌱 TJ, Spring wind softly blows Petals fall, yet love remains Always reaching you #Fatherhood #SakuraSeason #CherryBlossom #ParentChildBond #FamilyLove #DadLife #JapanSpring #LoveYourChild #FamilyConnection #AlwaysYourParent Video by Frank Litschel

Being a Parent Should Not Depend on Marriage or Relationship status In Japan, there is growing discussion about how children can stay connected to both parents. For a long time, systems have made it difficult for some parents to remain part of their child’s life, especially when the parents were never married. But being a parent is not defined by a legal status or nationality. It is defined by the care you give, the responsibility you take on when becoming a parent, and by the unconditional love that every child deserves. More voices are speaking about the importance of co-parenting and the role both parents play in a child’s life, and I still stand strong as an advocate for parents who are trying their best despite the challenges forced upon them outside of their control. Because a child does not stop needing a parent just because the situation is complicated. Every child deserves the chance to know both parents. To feel supported from both sides. And every parent should have the opportunity to be there. Neither parent should be allowed to force the other out of their child's life just because of selfish reasons. Because at the end of the day, it is not being a good parent, it is being selfish. Ego has no place in parenting. #Fatherhood #ParentChildBond #CoParenting #FamilyLove #ParentsOfInstagram #InternationalFamily #FathersRights #ChildFirst #FamilyConnection #alwaysyourparent #familymatters #familylawadvice #japanesefamily #multiculturalidad #multinationalfamily

TJ, As a new school year begins, I hope you step into it with confidence and curiosity. I hope you find good friends, discover new things you enjoy, and feel proud of yourself for trying your best. Every year is a new chance to grow. No matter where you are, I am always thinking of you and wishing you the very best. I hope this year brings you happiness and great memories. You will always have someone cheering you on. Love, Dad #Fatherhood #ParentChildBond #NewSchoolYear #BackToSchool #FamilyLove #ParentsMatter #DadLife #LoveYourChild #ProudParent #AlwaysYourParent #custody #coparenting #familylaw #parentalalienation

TJ, No matter how many miles stand between us, you are never far from my heart. I think about you every day and pray for your safety, your happiness, and your future. I hope you laugh often. I hope you feel loved. I hope you know someone in this world is always cheering for you. As the seasons pass and you grow older, I hope you remember the time we shared. My love for you will never fade, no matter the distance or obstacles. I will never stop trying to see you again, and I will always do everything I can to be part of your life. No matter how much time passes, I will always be your dad. And I will always love you. #Fatherhood #parentchildbond #coparentingstruggles #LoveAcrossDistance #FamilyLove #ParentsOfInstagram #DadLife #NeverGiveUp #LoveYourChild #FamilyConnection #coparenting #AlwaysYourParent #internationalfamily

This time of year marks endings and beginnings. Graduations, new classrooms, new steps forward. For parents, every milestone is bittersweet. Pride and longing can exist at the same time. Children grow forward. Parents love endlessly. No matter how far life takes them, the bond between parent and child remains part of who they are becoming. Spring is a reminder that love continues to grow. TJ, wishing you all the best, my love, and longing from afar. #SpringInJapan #Parenthood #FamilyMatters #GrowingTogether #ParentsSupport #FatherhoodJourney #ChildhoodLove #FamilyConnection #NewSeason #AlwaysYourParent

TJ, I keep a chair angled toward the door.
 It’s a small thing, like the first step we need.
 I’ll follow any rule put in place.
 Please allow that first step to be taken. ​​​​​#YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #TJ #parentalalienation #YuKaren

I mark no dates, I plan no celebrations.
 I only plan to show up with respect.
 TJ, the rest can be decided on the spot.
 Yuka, may we set one steady time? ​​​​​#YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #TJ #parentalalienation #YuKaren

TJ, my pockets hold small stories I saved for you.
 They’re better told face to face.
 I’m not here to fight for noise—I’m here for moments.
 Please let me see my son and hand them over. ​​​​​#YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #TJ #parentalalienation #YuKaren