The Gym Guy

Men, if you are ever faced with a choice to make between marrying a 24 year old woman and a 30 year old woman, go for the 24 year old one. Let me explain…

One of the dumbest things that a woman can do is withhold intimacy from his husband. Because if you are not giving him sex, there’s only but so long he will hold out. Even a good man, there’s only but so long he will hold out. And I’m not talking about if you’re holding out because you just had a baby, or you’re holding out because you just had a surgery, or you’re sick. If you are a healthy person and you are holding out on your husband, you are essentially handing him the keys to somebody else’s door. Don’t do it. Maybe you’re frustrated, whatever, but this cannot be the way that you try to teach your husband what works and what doesn’t. That is not the consequence versus reward that you want to invite into your life. You are the only woman that he’s supposed to get sex from, and you know that men are super sexually driven, and then you take away the sexual aspect of your relationship. You’ve literally handed him the keys to someone else’s door, you told them go do it. I wouldn’t advise that. I don’t think that’s very wise.

My wife cheated on me, and lately, I feel like I’m slowly learning to accept what happened. We still live together, and most days, things are okay between us. Sometimes, I even forget about what she did, and I start thinking that maybe I’m finally getting over it. But whenever we have an argument, especially when her cheating comes up, everything comes back. I start thinking about her and the other man. I imagine what they did together, where they went, what they talked about, and how she acted when she was with him. My body gets really hot, and I feel angry all over again. I can’t explain it properly. I just know that I suddenly feel terrible, even if I was completely fine a few minutes earlier. Then, when we’re okay again, those thoughts slowly go away, and everything goes back to normal. But after a few weeks, I find myself feeling furious all over again. I don’t understand what’s happening to me. I thought I was already accepting what happened, so why do I keep reacting like this? Sometimes, I feel like I’m going crazy. Has anyone else experienced this? What did you do about it? --- From my Dm, share some advice for this guy,

In marriage, submission is for both husband and wife. The word submission makes modern women angry, and it makes insecure men arrogant. Both are wrong. Submission is not slavery. It is a strategy for war. A kingdom cannot have two kings passing different orders at the same time, but it also cannot survive if the king does not lay down his life for his subjects.So in marriage, the wife must submit to her husband, and the husband must submit to his family. This is the golden rule. True submission is mutual. A wife submits to her husband’s leadership because she trusts his vision, while the husband submits his ego, his selfish desires, and his freedom to the protection and care of his family. If a man cannot submit his late nights out with the boys to the peace of his wife, he has no right to ask her for anything. So stop fighting for control. Submit to the vision of a lasting family together. Its that simple.

A marriage doesn’t always fall apart because someone cheated. Sometimes, one person gets tired of asking for attention, affection and basic consideration. Here are 7 signs your spouse is becoming emotionally exhausted…..

Women, No matter how angry you are with your husband, do not turn your children against their father. You may create a wound you cannot easily repair. Your husband may have hurt you, he may have dissapointed you, but your children are not weapons for fighting an adult battle. SO don't use them to settle scores.

Husband, before you blame your wife for the kind of marriage you have, ask yourself one question. What am I contributing to this marriage? Before you complain about her attitude, look at your own behavior. Before you demand change from her, ask what needs to change in you. So husband, ask yourself honestly: am I creating the marriage I am complaining about? Am I giving my wife what I expect from her? That question may change your marriage. Do not spend all your time asking, what is wrong with my wife? Sometimes ask, what can I do better? Because sometimes, the change you are asking for must first begin with you.