I went from a single alcoholic ready to give up on dating... ...to married with two kids. Here’s how:

Took my son to his friend's birthday party yesterday. Watched him tear after his friends laughing his head off. I spent my late teens and early 20s chasing highs that wore off by morning. A night out. A girl. Another drink... Woke up every morning with less than I started with. Now I'm standing in a garden watching my son hug his friend after playing pin the tail on the donkey. My wife's hand in mine.

You won't find this guy complaining online: - Skipped the couples dinner because he's the only single guy there - "Forgets" to mention his birthday to friends - Sat down alone for a hotel breakfast and felt the quiet sting he'd never admit to - Sighs whenever a wedding invitation comes with a +1 - Has his career, gym, and finances handled, but hasn’t been on a date in a year - Sees a girl he likes in a group and says nothing They don't complain. That’s exactly why they end up being the best husbands and fathers. They just haven’t been shown how to get there yet.

After helping 45+ single men find relationships, I've noticed there's 3 patterns they all share. All these guys had good jobs, were in shape and had a social life. But they couldn't figure out why they hadn't been on a date in months (sometimes years). First, they all know what to do. They just can't do it. They've read books on dating, watched YouTube videos, got advice from friends. "Logically" they know what to do. In reality, the moment comes and they freeze. They always resort back to the nice guy. Start overthinking. Which means they never cross from friendly to romantic. All due to the gap between knowing, and doing. Second, they wait. These are NOT lazy guys, but they put things off for ever changing reasons. It starts off with waiting to finish school. Then they wait to get in shape. Then the promotion. Then for a house... Years go by and they never move. Thirdly, the wake-up call always comes. Eventually, a moment they never planned for shatters their excuses. One of my clients nearly died in a car crash. One turned 36 and did the math on kids. Another watched someone the same age get married on Twitter and realized he'd been stalling for years. That moment always comes. The only thing that changes is how much time you burn before it does. Every one of them was hit with a choice. You will too. Do you decide to change and meet someone now. Or do you wait for life to decide for you.

Boys in the 1950s implicitly understood the importance of looking good to find a wife. Guys today won't shave in 2 weeks, throw on some cargo shorts and wonder why women don't look at them twice. Looksmaxxing is just common sense taking to extremes.

Married men live 10 years longer than single men. Earn 10-24% more. Are 135% more likely to report high life satisfaction. And have better sex. Anti-marriage content is copium for men who can't attract a wife.

Red-pill weirdos will see his wife and son’s reaction and still believe a one-night-stand with a hard 4 is worth giving this up for.