Oreoluwa

Since the turn of the year, I have woken up with one thing and one thing alone on my mind: my book. Because of this, my startup, @zeyawriting, has been largely neglected, relationships have disappeared into nothing, I have, for all intents and purposes, become a hermit. But it is a far greater exchange than whatever I have had to give up in pursuit of this one thing. I wake up every morning and channel whatever energy I have into chasing the one goal I set for myself in 2026, and I make bold to say that it is almost complete. I honestly don't understand young men who cannot channel their energy towards purpose, towards becoming better than they currently are; young men who do not know how to take no for an answer, who see a controversial figure like Aisha and somehow believe that she will not make mince of them, as she has done to others before them, simply to win an argument. A man must learn to develop himself, and that development must extend beyond the financial. He must learn to respect himself and carry himself with poise, especially in the face of rejection. When you reach out to a woman, for whatever reason, and she says no, take your L and go. You are not so important that you cannot be rejected. You are a man; you will be rejected more times than you will care to count. Learn to take that rejection, whatever disappointment or frustration comes with it, and channel that energy into your work. Understand that her rejection does not diminish you, just as it does not make her a bad person. Move on and continue with your life. You are neither the first man this has happened to nor will you be the last. This need to persist, to keep pushing after someone has made her position clear, reeks of desperation, and desperation is the last place a man wants to find himself, especially with a woman he so desires.