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Someday we should talk about how it also takes a village to abandon a child

I honestly can’t explain how disturbing this is. It doesn’t even make me angry; it just makes me sad. If you love your family so much, why not marry them? If you resent your wife that much, why did you marry her in the first place? You will see these men in comment sections saying things like, “When e reach your turn, will you will your house to your wife? Na there another man go marry her come dey sleep with her.” But why does it bother you so much? Why are you so obsessed with the possibility of another man being with your wife after you die? Don’t you trust her judgment when it comes to choosing a partner? Or is it that you don’t trust yourself enough to believe that the love you claim to have for her is worth remembering? What exactly is this fear rooted in? Insecurity? Possessiveness? Or the uncomfortable truth that you never really cared about your wife’s happiness as much as you cared about having control over her life? Some of you will marry women, turn them into full-time housewives, have multiple children with them, and then, if death comes unexpectedly, leave them with no financial security, no means of survival, and nothing to fall back on. All because you would rather protect your properties from the possibility of your wife remarrying than protect her and your children from the uncertainties of life. And the saddest part? Some of you will leave these women and children at the mercy of relatives who never cared about them in the first place. Imagine spending your entire life claiming to love your family, only to make provisions for their suffering because you cannot stomach the thought of your wife finding love again after you’re gone.

Nobody prepares you for how much quieter you become in your 30s ! You stop needing to be seen, chosen, understood or validated ! You just want to feel rested, regulated, grounded & at peace !