EN King

How to marry a wife in Nigeria. 1. Go to your parents and tell them that you want to marry your girlfriend (which they must have known about before), and seek their permission to discuss your plans with her parents or other relevant people. 2. Once they grant you permission, you tell your girlfriend to inform her family that you will be visiting them. 3. After she tells them, go to see them alone (they must have known you before then) and politely tell them your intentions, letting them know that you have also discussed it with your parents. Her mother doesn't have to be present throughout your discussion with her father. 4. After discussing with him, her father can invite her and her mother to join you. 5. He will then tell them what you said, and ask his daughter if she is willing to be your wife. 6. Once she says yes, her father will then ask you to come with your people after he informs his kindred about your intentions to marry his daughter. 7. Then his kindred will obtain their marriage list and send it to him. 8. On the day of your second official visit, you may choose to go with your close friend, brother, or even your parents for a proper introduction, and the list may be provided to them on that day, or sent to them later. Note that what both of your parents (hers and yours) are expected to do after you inform them is to secretly conduct some vetting and ask questions about both of you, your family background, history, etc., from others. After all this has been done, you can then decide to propose to her (if you wish), because it's all a public show if you ask me. Regardless, if all that has been done, is she going to humiliate you publicly by rejecting your proposal? The answer is No. So, if you're the type of man that fancies all those "serenren", make sure that you follow the right steps. Stop being a sissy by ignoring your parents, her parents, and proposing to a woman publicly. It's unafrican, it's disrespectful and it makes you look like you were not properly raised in that light. End.