That’s why when they do this—I bring receipts 💅
Narcissists believe they can author your identity—who you are, what you feel, what you said, what your intentions are, what your worth is.
They don’t just want control over your emotions; they want control over your character and public image.
That’s why they:
-Tell you who you “really are”
-Rewrite your character
-Redefine your emotions for you
-Assign you roles (villain, burden, unstable, selfish, etc.)
-Act like their interpretation is more real than your lived experience
It’s psychological colonization. If they can define you, they own you.
And when you refuse that—when you think for yourself and ignore their twisted fantasy—it destabilizes them. That’s why they escalate, smear, gaslight, or rage. You’re removing their perceived authority over reality.















