Excellent thread about that stove we're making. I've been cooking on one daily for a couple months now and can't wait to get it in y'all's hands!

So @Ariat had an ad on MTV during Drag Race that began with "when you think WORK, you think BOOTS." And now I can't stop wondering if Ariat has a genius in marketing or if that was just REALLY coincidental timing.

I've always been a very fast writer. I send MUCH longer emails and messages than others. It drives people nuts. Many coworkers have complained. I wondered, is this autism or something? Nope. I just joined /r/Buddhism and can now say for sure: it's, uh, Buddhism, apparently.

Maybe you should have negotiated repo access in perpetuity to submit bugfixes simply for your own peace of mind. Though my understanding in this case is that bounding boxes on animating things is an unsolved problem in computer science.

I do the "snooze all suggested for 30 days" in insta every time I see one, FB doesn't have that option so I've stopped using it entirely. Threads it was an instant uninstall for me.

Yeah I really wonder how much the trend of "suggestions", which are clearly the result of annual review systems that incentivize growth PMs to minmax short term metrics, will eventually be the death of a lot of platforms. They just fundamentally change what the tool does.

For me it's literally every post is quickly liked by a lot of women whose bust size exceeds their follower count.

So, uh, I haven't used Twitter as much as I used to, but just posting a bit recently... ... looks like @elonmusk fired all the people that were keeping the place from being overrun with porn spam bots, huh?

So I wanted to let you know that given available research, what I described is NOT an experience unique to people with ADHD or autism or anything else. It is the way the vast majority of humans empathize and if you do, then congratulations, you are one of them! 🥰

And there is comfort in capitulating to that belief, but for me it is the comfort of resignation and it robs me of my own power. To challenge my belief and see if it's really true is hard but when I learn the belief was wrong, it gives a profound relief and an empowerment.

... I feel my temptation to get diagnosed so I can say "well, I'm autistic" rather than do the harder work of investigating my idea that I'm different and asking if it's really true. Because often I search deeply and find that I am not!

Hey I wanted to come back to this. I have a lot of friends who identify as autistic and sometimes pressure me to get diagnosed. I haven't done that because I have lived my whole life with plenty of reasons to feel like I don't belong or am an outsider. And...

Man if you like cats, Turkey is the place for you.

I think Lulu's reply and this thread just totally changed my approach to this: xitter.cf/Lulu/status/1741504177… Namely the "I can probe for clarification but stay in my model of them instead of making them project into their model of me" part, aka don't literally talk about myself.

But yeah whenever someone says "I'm an empath" it's never about joy, usually they're explaining why it's hard for them to be around painful emotions and what I hear is "I have too much of the same thing in me and it resonates painfully like a tuning fork"

"personal distress" is one of the names they use and I think reflects how it's easier to feel upset seeing someone upset than it is to feel joyful seeing someone joyful.

Yeah once I googled it turns out my experience is aligned with research and cognitive empathy is the mental simulating, affective empathy is feeling feelings, they work together, affective is actually several interrelated poorly understood things.

Whoa, I hadn't even chased it that far through to realize that yeah, duh, that's exactly what I'm asking them to do.

I think for people who find it bothersome it's that specifically telling it as a story about me reads to them as me trying to change the subject to talk about myself, and I can probably just leave that out.