Neurodivergent Counselor (LCPC). Writer. Actor. Dungeon Master. Founder/Director of Effective Artistry. Suburban dad but, like...in a cool way? He/Him.
Chicago suburbs, IL, US
Joined May 2018
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Reminder:
Your productivity does not determine your value.
You don't have to make art to be an artist.
You don't have to hang out to be a friend.
You don't have to do anything to be anything.
Your validity is not contingent on being useful to others.
Is there a secret to trimming your beard into the same shape every time?
I've worn a beard for years now and every once in a while I get it into the shape I like, then I inevitably screw it up the next time.
I feel like an infomercial, but there has to be a better way!
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If you "stop procrastinating" on something, doesn't that mean that—by definition—you started procrastinating on whatever thing you would have done instead?
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And if you say no to that or think it doesn't matter, isn't it interesting that 'procrastination' means 'doing anything other than the thing you are procrastinating' except that it only counts for certain things and not for others?
How did you decide which things count?
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Individual humans are meant to be specialists.
Humans as a species are generalists.
A lot of distress arises from the fact that our culture teaches us that we're meant to be generalists (independent/self-reliant/etc) as individuals and we CAN'T so we feel like we're failing.
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I've been giving my father-in-law grief about it for years, but my god it turns out he's right:
Sudoku is the ultimate "turn your brain off" activity.
It's like a mega-stim.
I'm sure I'll be bored of it in a week or so.
#AuDHD
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Forget coffee. You really wanna wake up in the morning? Try starting your day by giving a 3-year-old medicine they need but don't want to take. In no time flat, you'll be as alert as a sailor in a storm.
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Brandon Tessers retweeted
Next week on the "This Is Not Therapy" Hour, we'll be talking about #ImpostorSyndrome. Join us LIVE on Monday 13th at 1pm CST. We're on Twitch, YouTube and Facebook. #MentalHealth #TherapistsConnect #Neurodiversity #communication #Healing
Advice for artists:
Act like you'll make art tomorrow.
If you make art today: great! It means you can go further tomorrow.
But if you don't, you'll still make art tomorrow.
No one makes anything great in a day.
Working sustainably is more important than working hard.
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You'll never think the idea you have is the best idea that anyone could have, even when it actually is.
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If you think the only thing stopping you from having the life you want is that you're not working hard enough, you're not paying attention to any of the information you'd need to actually change your life.
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And if you think you'll get the same results no matter what you do, you'll never do any of the things you'd need to do to actually change your life.
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People often give up on their goals too quickly because they don't give up on their strategies quickly enough.
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Generally speaking, it's much easier to ask different questions than it is to get different answers to the same questions.
Either can help you get unstuck.
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Disorders—as a category—are valid, useful labels for real, observed patterns of experiences and behavior.
They tell us a lot about a person's experiences and what might be helpful for them.
They tell us NOTHING about the cause of those experiences and behaviors.
Effectiveness is the balancing point between efficiency and expediency.
Efficiency requires thought. How could this best be done?
Expediency requires action. What can be done now?
They are at odds.
Finding the optimal balance between the two in any given context is the aim.
I think the most therapist-y thing about me is that the group chat with my brother and our divorced parents is labeled "Family of Origin" in my phone.
When I was young and had all the time in the world, I spent almost none of it taking care of my body.
Now with 3 young kids and no free time, somehow I'm spending more time on it than ever.
Didn't need to worry about it back then. Now if I drop the ball I feel it within hours.
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Not loving the fact that I'm old enough to start nodding my head thoughtfully when someone says "youth is wasted on the young" instead of scoffing in derision.
On the plus side, I made it to 37! And I'm starting to think I might actually not be fated for a tragic early death.
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