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I believe in enjoying life but I also think that people shouldn’t lose sight of their priorities. When you don’t prioritise effectively, you end up delaying things that could have a huge impact on the trajectory of your future, and you create stress for yourself in the long run.

Your attachment style can really go from one extreme to another. For example, you may be anxiously attached in one relationship because of an inconsistent partner, then suddenly morph into a dismissive avoidant by your next relationship because you don’t want another heartbreak.

One thing I love in people is enthusiasm. It’s so nice being around people who express their excitement intensely. The way they wear their heart on their sleeve makes them easier to read, and making them happy energises you because they always show joyful appreciation.

People be like “I’m passionate”, but what they mean is they have low emotional intelligence and struggle to self-regulate. I like the type of passionate that means you feel things deeply and love hard. Not the type of passionate that comes with shouting or throwing tantrums.

LIVE YOUR LIFE. If you’re happy, fulfilled, living in your truth, and your conscience is clear, then to hell with what others think. Don’t let anybody’s opinion taint the life you’ve built. Worry about yourself and the people you love. Outsiders will always remain on the outside.

There are people in this life who will reinforce your bad behaviours and rarely challenge you. Then there are people who will hold a mirror up to you. It may not always feel comfortable but they will encourage you to do better. Don’t undervalue the latter.

I haaaaaate it when people try to project their scarcity mindset onto me. Just full of bad vibes and endless limitations. Some of us go for what we want and we get it. And even when we don’t get it, we go again. But most of all, we trust the process. Try it sometime!

Comparison will steal your joy. Don’t rush marriage. Choosing a life partner is one of the most impactful decisions of your life. Take your time. Your 20s are your first decade of adulthood. Show yourself grace. Your mind is your greatest tool. Develop an abundance mindset.