keep things light does not work for certain people sometimes. not everyone deserves that kind of grace.
the ability and virtue of being free to feel without waiting or having confirmation on the other side, or to do and offer your gifts without waiting for your partner, or love not because you are loved first but because you love.
another rule abt relationship
jangan menghitung siapa yang paling banyak berkorban
love is not a competition over who has sacrifice more
ini jebakan halus yang bisa bikin banyak pasangan collaps
"aku udah melakukan A, B, C buat kamu, kmu apa?"
Kalau terus dilakukan, hubungan berubah menjadi buku besar utang emosional
lebih sehat melihat kontribusi secara keseluruhan:
“Apakah secara umum kita sama-sama berusaha?”
Bukan:
“Minggu ini aku 7 poin, kamu cuma 5.”
karena kontribusi pasangan memang tidak selalu berbentuk sama
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Kalau gw bukan minta dipenuhi lifestyle-nya, tapi kalau gw sanggup bayarin lo makan steak di Wolfgang minimal lo mikir kalau hidup sendiri gw bisa afford apa😭🙏 punten ini mah…
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ir retweeted
menurut gue penting. i’m attracted to people yg punya wawasan, broad minded, and genuinely curious. ga harus paling pinter, tpi enak diajak ngobrol dan selalu ada perspektif baru. emotional maturity juga matters bgt, karena smart without emotional control is kinda pointless 😅👍🏻
ir retweeted
That’s true. Chemistry bisa dibangun, keseruan bisa diciptakan, interest bisa dipelajari. Tapi boundaries, values, moral compass, ethics, kalo ga sama bakal nambahin banyak pertanyaan dan keraguan, which leads you to less enjoy your relationship
