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Retired traditionally trained Direct Entry Midwife. Now a tech mom, Compiling Motherhood with too many open threads.

Joined November 2024
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It’s just math … Utah WAS significantly more conservative than California was liberal. In the last 50 years, Utah moved from numbers like 72.8% red, to less than 60%. Whereas California only shifted from a red to blue in 1996, and only shifted to >50% blue in 2008. Meaning in the 80, both Utah and California were conservative. If you have a pool of 30/70 mixing with a pool of 55/45, it takes a LONG time for the 30/70 to become even 50/50. To my calculations, if you have a 2 million parts of a 70% concentration, you would need *8* million parts of a 45% concentration to hit 50%, now that’s only if they always shift at those rates and currently the concentrations are about 60% conservative and 40% conservative, which would require a shift of 2 million units. So Utah would require between 2 million and 8 million Californians to just hit 50/50, if no votes were going to a third party. Utah’s current population is about 3.5 million. And not all of those 1.5 million came from California. But even if they did, and if the concentration was exclusively the modern ratio, Utah would still need half a million Californians to be at 50/50. Not to mention the cultural aspect of liberals who even willing to move to such a conservative state are likely to already be moderate/centrists to begin with.
So I’ve been thinking a lot about why Utah managed to stay Red even though we’ve had a large influx of Californians move in… (this isn’t a jab to CA… my own husband is a Californian) And the answer came to me pretty quickly… Most of them moved here knowing we are still largely a population of members from the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Knowing that must come with some instant feelings… Good or bad. But I believe in this case it has been a blessing. I believe it has kept us from getting a drive of liberals flooding our suburbs. We have Californians moving here knowing they’re going to have neighbors of our faith with conservative values and I don’t believe they’re coming here to change that but to embrace all that it entails. I may be wrong… but we stayed RED! I pray we continue to do so. I pray that Texas is a cautionary tale for us here. @DrClownPhD’s hilarious video may be satire… but we all know this is becoming a reality. Utah needs to keep its conservative roots if we are going to be able to move through the next cycle. (And if you aren’t following him already? Please do… he’s so great 🫶🏼…)
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One of the biggest sources of ongoing marital conflict: I’ve lived here most of my life and my husband moved here <10 years ago. So my husband frequently drives the .\technically correct\ route instead of the *most effective* route.
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I continue to wish all the worst days, chronic unhappiness, and joyless endeavors upon those parents who refuse to pull ALL THE WAY FORWARD to the very front of the school drop-off and pickup line. May your life be unrelentingly burdensome.
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“JD. Habibi.” Is psychotic lmfao
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Gotta be the most delusional thing I’ve read on here in a while lmfao teapawt.net/KeturahAbigail/status/…
In twenty years nobody will know who CuriousBunnie12 is. It is highly plausible that my husband's name will be remembered in even two hundred years. Like it or not, he's shaping civilization.
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Husband puts a cigarette in his mouth. Me, “I thought you didn’t smoke in the jeep.” H, “I’m just putting it in my mouth” M, “Maybe if you started sucking dick you’d stop smoking. It’d give you that *mouth feel*” H, “Maybe if you sucked my dick more you’d stop talking and stop saying dumb shit” M, 😂, “NVM You definitely need to smoke”
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So basically the only demographic with a republican majority was Old White Southern Men with No College Education. Demographic is not surprising but the intensity of rejection from every other demographic and sub demographic is more exaggerated than I expected.
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Your penis is curved because you’re circumcised.
Replying to @TheAlphaPathh
Almost every guy deals with this. It happens more with deeper thrusts, a bigger angle change, or a more curved penis. Shorter, controlled strokes and a slight angle adjustment fix most of it.
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This sentiment makes me lol. Children have never impeded my personal development, ability to pursue passions, etc. You can just **do things** when you have kids, if you choose to set your life up that way. “They’re in the prime of their lives, understand themselves better than ever, and have the freedom to pursue their careers, enjoy life, and build the kind of relationship they’ve always wanted.”
Seth Rogen says he and his wife are now more grateful than ever that they decided not to have children he’s not afraid to explain why. He admits they used to question whether they’d made the right decision, but now their conversations have shifted to, “Honestly, thank God we don’t have children.” His reasoning? They’re in the prime of their lives, understand themselves better than ever, and have the freedom to pursue their careers, enjoy life, and build the kind of relationship they’ve always wanted. But Seth took it a step further, saying he sees people with children struggling to find the same time for work and personal enjoyment that he and his wife have. “I seem to get a lot more active enjoyment out of not having kids than anyone I know seems to get out of having kids.” That statement will probably divide people. Some see raising children as life’s greatest joy, while others believe a fulfilling life doesn’t have to include parenthood. Do you think Seth has a point, or is there a kind of happiness you can only understand after having children?
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To be clear - no one should have kids if they don’t want to. There’s nothing wrong with being child free. But “understanding yourself” and “enjoy life” and “build the relationship you want” Those aren’t mutually exclusive with parenthood. It’s not one or the other.
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Some people say it’s a myth some women have higher sex drive early-mid cycle. But I just propositioned my husband to move our bed into the garage because our already small house is rapidly getting smaller as the kids get bigger and it’s impeding my evening plans too often.
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My mom after I told her I didn’t let my 15 year old go trick or treating because he refused to wear anything remotely resembling a costume. This woman was so strict with us 😆
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He was welcome to hangout with friends either way. But no costume = no trick or treating. He decided if he couldn’t go trick or treating without a costume then he wouldn’t go at all. Also, supposedly his friends were wearing costumes. So he wouldn’t have been the only one whose mom made them dress up.
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Am I delusional, or do my breasts actually vary by 2 whole cup sizes each month? Small boob me is sad.
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Here is the original “test” I rated myself a 7 by their definition but by my own I would say 6. Mine and the “Answer” key in the comments
Reminder that humans don't have world models either
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I think I can keep my 7. I answered before seeing the example options. I Improved the wheels also.
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Removing survival of the fittest from the human gene pool by allowing certain people to live is a population and genetics nightmare that will become progressively more destructive.
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once in a while a man claims redhead women are unattractive and it makes me snort. Have you seen porn filters? Redhead is *always* a top filter. For a reason. It’s a very common kink and many men are PASSIONATE about it. I have had my hair every color. From platinum to black, rich brunette, soft brown, dark blonde, fashion colors, and multiple reds. By far, leagues far, I get hit on the most with bright red hair. I have curly hair and if I go out when it’s long, curly, worn down and bright red I can nearly guarantee I will be complimented by at least one woman, blatantly hit on by at least one man and often hit on by women as well. The only thing that results in more male attention was being <30 and looking passable as possibly underage. But I’m not <30 anymore and almost never get hit on anymore *unless my hair is visible* Men who like red hair will enthusiastically follow a red head woman into the depths of hell and thank her for it.
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