You deserve to be wanted slowly.

Breathe slower. She feels it before you say a word.

You were never too much for the right man. You were too much for a man who couldn't hold you.

To the woman who has been the sexual gatekeeper for years: there are men who can hold their own desire so you don't have to guard against it. You get to set the shield down and feel what's yours.

If you think three dinner dates should earn you sex, you're already approaching intimacy wrong. Desire and readiness aren't the same thing. A woman can be wildly attracted to a man and still want to take her time. And a man is absolutely entitled to want a relationship with strong sexual chemistry. But if you're measuring her attraction by how quickly she sleeps with you, you may be missing the very signals you should be paying attention to. Is there flirtation? Playfulness? Physical chemistry? Mutual curiosity? Is the erotic tension building? There's a whole world of sexuality between a handshake and intercourse. And gentlemen, if you're viewing the dinners you paid for as an investment that hasn't yielded a return, I'd invite you to examine what kind of dynamic you're actually creating. Sexual compatibility matters. So does how we cultivate it. xitter.cf/i/trending/21146313186…

Money fear doesn't stay in your bank account. It follows you to dinner. It sits beside you while your kid talks. People hear "I need this" before you say a word. Scarcity costs you presence. Ask: "What would I do if I trusted this month will work out?" Then do that.

Most advice on lasting longer tells you to feel less. Think about something else. Numb it. That's backwards. You last longer by learning to feel more. Noticing things that are happening in your body that most men miss, & adjusting accordingly

You can own your desire completely without needing, grasping or taking from anyone. I want men to experience those two things together: Fuck yes, I want you. And: You remain completely free.