Communication at times is a challenge for everyone...specificity matters.... check out my book That's not what I said... could be useful during tough times.. amazon.com/Thats-Not-What-Sa…

The meaning of the word Shadow- simply put - facebook.com/reel/4245073385…

When 'Shame' enters a relationship the game of who is annihilating who begins..... a unconscious zero sum game with nowhere to go. Replacing shame with vulnerability is the only solution. Courage risk and consciousness is required.

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Wait two beats before responding- delay delay delay- youtube.com/shorts/B_ql3HTpr… - the calm mind of the Dali Lama.... John Gottman

Some nice photos/ video of my presentation on Cumulative Trauma in childhood Hidden healing interventions. at the Saticoy Country Club for the CAMFT chapter in Ventura California * very nice supportive group a pleasure to have been invited.

A little shout for all our teams hard work . A unique and essential field, where our mission continues to be ' no-one should suffer in pain in isolation' . A foundational corner stone of mental health - collaboration.

A gentle reminder on Mental Health Day From Held and Honest With today being World Mental Health Day, I find myself reflecting on the core values that have shaped both my personal journey and our mission at Held & Honest: honesty, self-awareness, connection, and the precious gift of life itself. Mental health isn’t just a topic for one day a year. It’s an ongoing conversation, a daily practice, and something we all have a responsibility to care about. But World Mental Health Day offers us all a moment to pause, reflect, and ask: How are we really doing? And more importantly, how can we support one another? The Courage to Be Real Living courageously doesn’t always mean bold acts or public declarations. Sometimes, it’s having the strength to ask for help. It’s finding a way forward when the next step feels uncertain. It’s saying no to things that are no longer serving you. It’s being honest about how you’re feeling. It’s showing up for your family, your friends, or even a stranger in need. Courage is vulnerability in action. And in a world that often rewards perfection over authenticity, and one that is too quick to judge but often too slow to support, that kind of courage is more important than ever. Connection Matters Whether it’s the family we’re born into or the one we create along the way, connection to others is one of the most powerful parts of our mental wellbeing. No one gets through life alone. Investing in the people around you, through time, presence, and honesty, is one of the greatest things you can do for your own mental health and for the people you love. Reach out. Have the conversations. Show up. We are better together. Health in All Its Forms Physical health and mental health are deeply connected. You can’t pour from an empty cup, and taking care of yourself isn’t selfish. It’s essential. Rest when you need to. Move your body. Talk to someone. Laugh. Unplug. Do things you love, things that make you feel like yourself. And remember, progress is more important than perfection. Mental health challenges can affect anyone, regardless of their background, circumstances, or age. The more openly we talk about that, the easier it becomes for people to ask for the support they need. Make the Most of This Life Finally, life is a gift. A messy, challenging, beautiful, heartbreaking, unpredictable ride. Not every day will be easy. But every day offers a chance to grow, to connect, to start again, and to experience something that makes life worth living. This World Mental Health Day, take a moment to check in with yourself and the people around you. Let’s be a little more honest about how we’re doing. Let’s make more room for connection. And let’s remember that looking after our mental health is not something we have to earn. Take care of yourself, and each other.

How Herbert handled Hell - what a great piece and very well written - Life from POW to Film actor- how does that even happen ?! WWW.BRITAINATWAR.COM Michael Haskew - worth a read.

Sometimes we minimize what happened to us because that was how we survived it. We tell ourselves, "It wasn't so bad," or compare our suffering with people whose circumstances appear objectively worse. But comparison does not necessarily heal pain. Sometimes it simply makes our own pain more difficult to acknowledge & this is passed on. Expression of vulnerable needs has its own quiet strength.

Beautiful piece on my father Percy Herbert, if that is the right word, so well crafted and full of essential details. Quite humbled by such support interest and knowledge. Thank you MICHAEL E HASKEW from Britain At War Magazine.

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New blog- Triggers when old wounds are stirred .... drkatrinawood.com/2026/09/15…

Excellent review in the stellar current edition of History of War magazine features Anthony Tucker-Jones' review of my father British Percy Herbert POW/ Film Actor memoir Time Will Pass Johnny. Very cool . Thank you!

Emotional attunement- we now know so much more about what' good enough mothering ' ( Winnicott ) means as post WW2 mothers were raising children still traumatized by the war and expressing vulnerability was frightening understandably. Yet while the path is long glimmers of light of awareness now make the journey less lonely today & for future families. Being mindful not to minimize the importance of a solid emotional relational emotional home embracing our vulnerable selves with both compassion and insight provides a resilient connected foundation. A key for a better life.

Trauma- PTSD often causes a shattering undoing of an illusion carried that the world is predictable- safe. What is not part of trauma is when an interpretation intrudes with ignorance that such shattering experience signifies some kind of weakness or is not ' normal' . 'Trauma' lays a human down. Only human beings who support ' trauma' with insight & compassion & understanding that this would be a 'normal' response as a baseline can help others for healing to begin.