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Author-Brothers, Sisters, Strangers, The Sibling Estrangement Journal, Motherland, Is It Night or Day? Available for speaking engagements. [email protected]

Joined April 2009
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One risk factors for sibling estrangement is a family member who has #narcissistic personality traits. That person may not be diagnosed, but they may display characteristics. #estrangement #familydynamics \psychologytoday.com/us/blog/…
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Thanks for sharing @PsychToday!
Fawning is a survival response to longstanding powerlessness—and that kind of hyper-vigilance can become second nature, creating barriers to intimacy. Here's what can be done about it to forge closer relationships, explains @fernschumer psychologytoday.com/us/blog/…
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Family estrangement can often stem from fundamental differences between parents and children, especially when it comes to sexual orientation, gender identity, choice of spouse, religion, or political views.
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Choosing to set boundaries with a parent or family member who cannot accept you is not about abandoning family; it’s about choosing personal well-being and the freedom to live authentically.
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💡 Key takeaway: Family conflicts over deeply personal matters are often difficult to reconcile. However, understanding and respecting each other's identities can help ease the divide.
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This post addresses the power dynamics of siblings and what parents should know ... psychologytoday.com/us/blog/…
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Which can result in serious abuse & harm occurring if the parents leave the older sibling in charge of the younger one. If you're not the younger sibling yourself, trust me. It's no picnic.
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Did you know your birth order can influence how you relate to your siblings and contribute to estrangement?
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🔹 Only children may experience intense parental expectations but lack the buffer of siblings to help manage family dynamics, often feeling isolated or misunderstood.
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💡 Why does this matter? Birth order shapes family roles that deeply influence sibling interactions. When these roles lead to unmet expectations, conflicts can arise, potentially contributing to estrangement. Birth order dynamics may shed some light on why conflicts can happen.
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